u/StreetInsurance3203

I ordered door dash on my laptop and this is what he said. I took a picture of it. I reported him to door dash. In all the years I've used door dash, I've never encountered this issue. Yes, the tip wasnt the best, but he also agreed to that amount when he accepted my order. He could've declined. the restaurant is not very far from my house. I ate some of the food but.. something didnt seem quite right when I bit into the chicken. I ended up throwing it out because it looked suspicious. door dash didn't refund my order. they just sent me $5 in apology credits.

I know, the tip could've been better. I usually tip more, but with the costs of fees on this order, and considering how much the food actually costs (not considering door dash fees), i thought this was fair. this is a side hustle for many people. it's not supposed to be a full time job. which doesn't necessarily mean this isn't valid, but he knew what he was walking into when he agreed to take my order.

some people don't tip AT ALL! they leave 0$ in tips. if anything, door dash should actually pay their workers a decent wage without the dasher needing to rely on tips just to get by.

I feel bad for him, but begging for tips or guilt tripping the customer to tip more is still foolish to me.

I have a friend who has become very draining to me. Whenever she calls me, she's in crisis. It's either she has issues in her relationship, or is involved in some sort of drama, or needs to vent about something....

I've listened to her vent about the SAME guy she's been dating for the past 4 years now. ALL the time. Their relationship is very toxic and nothing ever changes. It gets incredibly frustrating listening to her vent about the same boyfriend over and over again. They aren't married, don't live together, or have kids. I've told her that he isn't right for her, but she refuses to leave the relationship. It's like she thrives off drama and chaos and needs it in her life. Guess who she calls whenever she has problems with her boyfriend? Me. she doesn't just vent, she dumps it ALL on me the second I pickup the phone. She only calls me to talk about herself. Can't remember when she's called to simply check on me.

I've always been the listening ear. I will answer the phone when she picks up or will make the effort to call her back. I'm always available to her. I listen, validate and empathize with her.

Whenever I need someone to talk to about my problems, I get short responses like "aww im sorry" then she changes the topic back to herself. She compares my situation to someone elses' and says "it could be worse" yeah In any situation it could always be worse, but I've never told her "it could be worse" when she shared something personal and sensitive with me. It's insensitive and dismissive.

by doing so, she undermines me. She makes me feel like shit for discussing my problems..She doesn't take the time to understand me or give me the floor to vent. To actually listen to me. does she doesnt give me the same level of response I give her.

It's weighing heavy on me because I have been going through a really rough time mentally and just needed someone to empathize with me for once or at the very least, just listen to me. Ask questions, show interest, be supportive, etc. Which, it doesn't seem like she has the capacity to do. It has been very one sided for a considerable amount of time now. For the past year actually

She's incredibly arrogant and self centered. She's one of those types of people who "knows it all" and will give advice that actually turns out to be inadvertently insulting. Just ONE example would be: I should take oil of oregano for this autoimmune condition that I have. She doesn't seem to care about what I am going through, nor does it feel like she takes me seriously.Mind you, this is just one example. There's more.

I've told her how her behavior has made me feel and she's never genuinely apologized for it. In fact, she did quite the opposite. She deflected and explained "why" she said what she said. It just confirmed my belief she was actually sorry. She just justified her actions. She didn't care that it upset me.

There's more. It's not just this. It's just too much for this post. I didn't see the point in confronting her. I have already tried to and it just made things worse. I can't recall ever getting a genuine apology from her. Where she actually understood the gravity of her actions and tried to make it right. All she does is deflect and make it seem like I am the one with the problem when I confront her. And tell her that her lack of compassion and serious lack of boundaries for constantly dumping on me makes me feel.

Idk why I feel bad. It's just that she texted me about something personal recently. She's upset she can't have kids of her own and something happened that made that pain come back. Sje cant see her nephews this summer. I already knew that and we talked about it before. It was weighing heavy on her.

Like I understand she's going through a tough time, but so am I. I did not respond to her text. I left her on read. She tried calling me three times since I ignored her text. I ignored every call. I just texted and said I was busy. After I told her I was busy. Of course, she didnt reach out after that. Its because she knows im not available to listen to her bullshit. So why call? Because whenever I talk to her about my problems its "it could be worse" or "awe I'm sorry".

If I am not going to actually get support, why should I give her the time of day? I'm done being available ALL the time to listen to her. I have my own therapist. I have my own problems. She needs a therapist. She is emotionally bankrupt.

She tried to dump on me again via text and I ended up blocking her number. After the fact, I saw that she called me three different times since blocking her. I can still see blocked calls pop up on my call log...

I don't know why I even feel guilty for ignoring her? Considering how crappy she's made me feel about myself......

If it was you, would you block this person without explanation? Or would you just let the friendship fizzle out and dissipate on its own? Like instead of ignoring them, tell them you're busy and not available? Then just don't call them back?

I am usually not the "ghoster". I have always been the "ghostee" (when it's come to non-romantic friendships) . It just feels unnatural for me. I am wondering what you would do in this situation?

I feel that confronting her would just be a waste of time.

Angelina Vasquez

602-539-9703

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