u/StrictlyVolatile

If you’ve seen my later posts my co parent is just so hard to deal with.

So back in December I had asked my co parent if he’d be okay with me moving to my moms 3 hrs away from him. He agreed and said it would be a better arrangement. For context he cheated on me, I was a stay at home mom and then I was a single mom with no job, and because he was with the affair partner I moved to the city not far from our home. I tried to make it work for 4 months, tried so hard to find work, but failed and ultimately decided moving would be best, having more support with my mother and family and again, I did ask him he was well aware and even offered to help me move.

However, he did ask if he could co sign a place for me and pay damage deposits and first months rent and I declined . I didn’t wanna be financially entangled with him, he also offered up his gf as child care and I also said no.

So I moved, not even a month after I moved, he got mad at me for not stopping co sleeping right away, so he removed support payments and threatened not to bring our daughter back, berated me for not having a job yet

Now, yes he does do all the travel and I recognize this as hardship. But I don’t have my license or a vehicle nor money for said vehicle yet(he was aware as we were together for 11 years) . But I’m getting there and I’m taking my N (Canada) in a week. I also have a job. I’ve been here for 5 months and slowly picking myself back up again

So he stopped support payments and now he’s demanding I move back in 90 days, I have a lawyer btw and I’m going through the process but holy hell this is awful.

He’s now trying to say I forced him to agree to the move, and me declining his original offers to co-signing was a bad faith move. But I didn’t force him at all. I asked and asked again and triple checked and every time he said yes

I’m just so done with all of this, I hate co parenting it’s the literal worst. I’ve done everything I could to be as fair as I can.

We operate on a 60/40 shared custody without an agreement (in the works) only because he works rotational work, but now he wants 50/50 as well and says the other half of his parenting time will be covered by his girlfriend.

Sorry this is actually just a giant vent post because I’m so tired of this. He expects me to just be made of money and completely financially stable after 5 months, and now expects I drop everything move back to where he is jobless, and with 0 support.

Keep in mind our daughter (almost 3) is well taken care of, she has a great daycare, lots of friends and his surrounded by family. Has a great routine a doctor the works and her dad has liberal parenting time following his work schedule

And once she’s ready to start school I’d be more than willing to work my way back to dad so that parenting time isn’t disrupted.

I’m actually just, exhausted.

Not really sure what I’m asking lol. Because I’m genuinely confused.

So my ex sort of does this thing, right before his time is up with our daughter he brings up a concern. Almost like clock work. It’s gotten so consistent that I’m surprised when it doesn’t happens.

Anyways, so recently he’s brought the concern of how things are handled in my house hold vs his. Potty training sleep temper tantrums etc.

Now keep in mind I have given all this information to him before, sleep routines, potty training, temper tantrums, etc etc

But now he’s asking for a full Monday- Sunday break down of activities and I said I didn’t really feel entirely comfortable giving that info. And he basically said I need to set my petty feelings aside or we can go to court.

I don’t have petty feelings , I’ve given him every necessary routine. Potty training sleep wake ups I just don’t know what more he’s asking

Any advice is greatly appreciated?

Thanks guys