u/SubjectSheepherder55

I'm an Information Systems student at UMBC and will be graduating in about a year. One of the my objectives this semester is to start networking in hopes that doing so will help me land a job after graduation but have a couple concerns and would appreciate any advice. I'm 31 (32 when I graduate) and this will be a major career shift for me so I don't have much work experience in IT. Ideally, I want to eventually go into cybersecurity. I'm not picky about which department I work for, just that the job is in IT and has benefits.

The wedding is in almost 5 weeks exactly.

Bit of background, my car was totaled in an accident a few months ago and we didn't want to take on another car payment with the wedding expenses breathing down our necks so we've been sharing her car since.

I have work today and she's driving me so that she has the car. Had to stop to get gas as one is wont to do when having a car. She pulls up to the pump, shifts into park, and i get out to pump the gas. I get back in the car, we're chit chatting while we wait. Pump shuts off, i put it back, and get back in the car. She looks me right in the eye and says "I forgot to turn the car off." The fucking engine was running the entire time while pumping gas!!!

I swear her brain completely shuts down when we're together, like zero thoughts. Thank god she's pretty and has a fantastic ass.

EDIT: clearly how funny she and I found this event didn't translate well. To clear a few things up and answer some questions:

1. She asked me to post this and I read it back to her so she's aware of the post. She's the one that came up with the title, not me.
2. Her car runs very smoothly and I'm partially deaf hence why I couldn't hear or feel that the engine was still going.
3. Yes, I did get a little money from the equity of my car but we decided we'd use that money towards her student loans and the wedding and hold off on getting another car until after the wedding.
4. This is just our sense of humor. We love to tease and laugh with each other.

My fiancée and i (both 30f) have been together for just over 4 years and have lived together for a majority of our relationship.

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We both work and I'm currently working on my bachelor's but she makes much more than me and her job has the potential to be pretty stressful some days. We established early on that since she's the breadwinner and pays the majority of our shared expenses (we have a bank account that we both pay into for things like the mortgage and utilities, we contribute about 80/20 with her paying the majority), i can handle the majority of the housework and other miscellaneous things like scheduling car maintenance, grocery shopping, and generally the tasks that keep the household operating smoothly with a bit of help from her with some stuff.

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One of the things she's supposed to do is put away her laundry. I wash all our clothes and put away mine plus the other bits of laundry like towels and wash clothes so she's only responsible for hers. I don't ask that she puts them away in any particular sort of way (my clothes are organized, hers arent), just that her clothes are put away neatly in either her closet or the dresser instead of just sitting in a basket.

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I usually do laundry about twice a week and as I put away my clothes, I sort through and put her clothes in a basket. She has way more clothes than I do so sometimes there's one basket overflowing with her clothes.

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Now, onto the problem. She hates putting away her clothes and it's not uncommon for it to take her a couple weeks to actually put them away. This is a problem for me because there's a pile of clothes in the way as I'm moving around our bedroom or just trying to tidy up. And for reasons I can't really pin point, it just stresses and irritates me to see all that laundry just cluttering up our space. I know there's zero chance of her doing it during the work week after a long day at work so I ask that she puts away her clothes sometime over the weekend. She usually says maybe, the clothes don't get put away, her laundry piles up, i ask that she puts them away over the weekend, rinse and repeat.

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I've been asking her to put away the same basket of clothes for about 2 and half weeks. I've shared with her how it makes me feel, been patient and understanding that her job is stressful etc. Nothing is changing so I'm about to go nuclear and just stop doing her laundry all together. I'll get a separate hamper and if she wants clean clothes, she can launder them herself because I've about had it with having to repeat myself and feel like I need to beg her to do this one task that will maybe take 45 mins out of the entire weekend to do.

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WIBTA for going nuclear and completely stop doing my fiancée's laundry because she doesn't put her clothes away?

Forgot to cover it and it got rained on. Tried firing it up today for some pork belly burnt ends and I keep getting the low error reading. I've vacuumed out the fire pot, wiped the thermometer down with a wet paper towel, and power cycled it and still getting the error. The pellets are bone dry and not very old.