u/Subject_Shallot3431

I currently live with my mom who was a stroke victim/was diagnosed as biploar schizophrenic about 4 years ago and my great grandmother. My great grandmother has a pretty bad personality (always says terrible rude stuff about anyone and laughs at others misfortune. She doesn’t care much for people’s feelings because in her words “I’ve lived my life.”

Most recently my grandmother came down to visit for Mother’s Day and between all 3 of them it was a disaster. My mom resents my grandmother for trying to give her up for adoption and had it not been for my great grandmother and great grandfather stepping in to stop that from happening my life would probably be pretty different right now.

Recently my mom and great grandmother decided to sell some of the family property to another family member and my grandmother felt slighted. She showed up on Mother’s Day with lots of court documents questioning why she wasn’t included in the conversation of selling property. From there that’s all it took. I had to witness my mom and grandmother saying the worst things to each other on Mother’s Day (that’s pretty tame considering I watched them fist fight each other when I was younger).

My great grandmother just laughed in the background as the other two argued back and forth (she finds family conflict and conflict in general amusing). To top it off I had ordered both my mom and grandmother gifts for Mother’s Day that didn’t even arrive in time (insult to injury they’re arriving in about 2 weeks from now due to delay but the gifts are pretty pointless now considering what’s transpired.)

I’m the only male in the house and I’ve tried to keep the family together because I feel that’s what my great grandfather would’ve wanted but I think the Mother’s Day debacle was the final straw. I write all this to say I don’t know man… just kind of tired of trying to play peacekeeper for people older than me. For clarity I’m early 30s, mom is mid 50s, grandmother early 70s, great grandmother late 90s. I’d move out but I’m currently self employed making only enough to cover my own bills and help out with house bills, I have lupus and I’m unable to work a regular job without getting sick so I work from home.

I appreciate anybody who reads this just needed to get it out. My family constantly spikes my depression, aniexty, and my lupus. I don’t necessarily have anyone to talk to about it because none of my other family wants anything to do with the drama. I can’t talk to my friends about it either because they never have any advice or thoughts to offer on it and I’m sure they’ve got their own troubles to worry about. I’m starting therapy tomorrow with an online therapist because my mind needs a mental break and I don’t want to get physically ill either from the constant stress of family trauma.

As of lately I’ve been very angry. I recently got broken up with from a 10 year relationship due to my ex saying I was “extra weight” and the relationship was “weighing her down” because she felt I was too nice for her and how guilty she felt about treating me terrible towards the end of the relationship. When I told my friends about it they either had not much to say or in their own words basically told me to get over it and go throw myself out to lots of women as a bachelor. As someone coming off a 10 year relationship where there was talks of potential marriage, children, and moving in together this made me very upset. Not long after my disease caused by stress (assuming it’s from the break up) has started to act up again causing burning itching hives and facial rashes. At the moment I’m getting in touch with a specialist for the disease but this also angered me it feels like someone is rubbing salt in open wounds. I told my friends in a group chat about this and it kind of just got ignored and everyone went on with other conversations as if I hadn’t said anything. Not long after I left the group chat. I say all this to so say now I’ve isolated myself from everyone, I’m angry, I feel betrayed. I feel discarded and unheard even though I do my best to be the most kind generous and helpful person I can be. I feel like it’s gotten me no where and now I kinda hate people and most things. Is this feeling of hate relatable to anyone in anyway or do I kind of just sound like some whiny brat with a chip on their shoulder? I appreciate all replies and insight would love to hear others perspective on this.

Hello all I was diagnosed with Lupus at 17 years old. I’m 30 now and over the years cellcept stopped working for me entirely adding no benefit and I was taken off it because of this. Recently my lupus has began causing flares again with a severe malar face rash that’s been going for about a week now. My rheumatologist is putting me back on Cellcept after years so it begs the question can it have any effect now since it’s been a few years since I used it? I wanted to ask about your experiences with the medication CellCept including side effects and if you feel it helps at all.