R/cats if your mods are gonna act like this over people showing concern for CATS maybe don’t have a cat sub. This is absolutely disgusting. Letting people show abuse and injury that they let happen is actually sickening.
Well, some people had a different opinion that's why my comment carma is bad. Like I didn't discriminate or insulted someone. In many communities I can't comment because my comment carma is in the negative.
In german communities u get downvoted if u don't have the same opinion or are accidentally wrong, if ur right they always check ur comment karma and if it's negative they don't give a upvote. Reddit is shit
Seriously. Everything is so censored now. Fb. Insta. Tiktok. Every single platform. You can get banned for anything. In one day I 3 bans totalling 180 days on fb. I was having a conversation about my time in the military with another veteran and got 2 bans for "offensive or dangerous language" because I said shit and damn. Those amounted to 60 days and then I got another 120 days for "encouraging or inciting violence" because we were discussing the war that we both served in. No names. No threats. No nothing. Just a conversation about old times and I got banned. Yesterday on reddit I got a "warning" for "threatening behavior" because there was a video of a jetski harassing a kayaker and I made mention of seeing someone else smack a jet ski with a weight for being a jerk in a no wake zone. Like seriously? Toughen up people. The world isnt all butterflies and fucking rainbows. Life sucks. Shit happens. Not everyone is your friend.
Bonus - This was originally posted in another reddit and got taken down for "inciting violence."
I stand by what I said.
15+ years of being in the US and 11+ years since FC is filed - I am ready to give up. Changing landscape of software industry not living any hopes of getting a green card ever. After being here for soo loong, uprooting life would be very difficult.
I have never gotten my hair professionally cut. I’m a first gen and my parents are African. My dad has always kept his hair short and my mom, who now has sister locs, has never fully understood how to properly care for natural type 4 hair. From a young age she would wash and style my hair. This would include her shampooing and conditioning with any random cheap product she found at the store, blowdrying, no raking my hair with the comb attachment on the blowdryer, and then braiding tightly on my scalp. She never really detangled my hair. The most detangling done was a rat tail comb raked through my hair or a wide tooth comb for a larger section. I understand my mother never really had the time or the tools to understand our hair. She didn’t grow up in an environment that allowed for that, and then became busy working so we could yk survive. In fact, up until college she was forced to shave her head as it was considered a distraction” for young girls. Now that i’m older, and I have the time and resources for my hair. I takedown, detangle, wash, blow dry, and style my hair. Guess how long it is?! Barely to my shoulders. So I started trimming, because maybe it is the breakage. Now my hair is shorter and a bit uneven. Don’t get me wrong my hair is much fuller and I absolutely love the way it looks. But when you spend 3 yrs developing a better routine and pouring so much time and money into better hair care products, you expect results.
All this to say I want to go to an actual hair stylist. But, unfortunately, it is so hard to find a stylist that isn’t one: 45+ minutes away and two: over $150 just for a wash, trim. and style. Thats all I want. A wash, a trim, and a style. Not even for the coil education (which I also would love). Its so frustrating to feel like this. I search for a natural hair stylists in my area. What do I find? A curl specialist!!! What hair do they work with? Textures way looser than mine. Ok, fine. Now I search type 4 hairstylists in my area. Alright, curl specialist, again, but they do textures more similar to mine!! Ok let’s check their prices: $325 for new customer wash, style and curl education :) Are you kidding me. Not even a trim incuded, its a 1 hour appointment, and ur charging me $325 excluding the deposit. Are we for real.
Anyways thank you for reading all the way through!! Please tell me if you relate to this or have any advice. Im just so upset and tired after searching for nearly 4 months on and off. :(
Pictures included for those curious. Also it’s not dyed and that is my natural color and coil. Please don’t insult my hair or ends, I will cry!!
Does anyone else have in-laws who seem to make everything more complicated than it needs to be?
Long story short, I made a decision that I believed was best for my wife, our kids, and our family. My in-laws didn't agree with it, which is their right, but my father-in-law made it clear he felt the need to voice his opinion—like he has with a lot of other decisions over the years.
For context, my wife and I are both well into our 30s. We're not young kids trying to figure life out. We're adults capable of making decisions for our own household.
I also want to add that I'm not some lazy guy who expects everyone else to carry the load. I have a great career, I run a side business, and I'm a very active, involved father. I work hard to provide for my family and spend as much time with my kids as I can. Every decision I've made has been with my family's best interests in mind.
I've always tried to have a good relationship with my in-laws. I've invited them over to spend time with the kids, included them in family gatherings, and helped whenever they needed something. There was never any bad blood from my side.
The decision I made was something they knew was likely coming, but I don't think my father-in-law believed I'd actually follow through. Once I did, everything changed.
Now they only come see the grandkids when I'm at work. It honestly feels like that's the only time my mother-in-law is "allowed" to come over. Before, they regularly watched our kids while my wife and I worked. Since they're retired, I rearranged things so they wouldn't feel obligated to babysit anymore. I thought I was doing them a favor—letting them enjoy retirement while still seeing the grandkids whenever they wanted.
Instead, it's like I committed some unforgivable offense.
My father-in-law acts like I sacrificed "his baby" (my wife) to make life better for our family, when in reality my wife and I made the decision together because it was the best move for us.
Here's the part that really gets me: I could leave for a three-week vacation, and they still wouldn't come see the kids until I went back to work. That's what makes this feel more like a personal issue than anything else.
I haven't spoken to my father-in-law in about a year, and honestly, the peace has been nice. But I know my mother-in-law would probably love to spend more time with the grandkids. It just feels like she keeps her distance to avoid conflict with her husband.
It's sad because I was incredibly close to my grandparents growing up, and I know how valuable those relationships can be. My father-in-law didn't have that experience with his own grandparents, and instead of breaking that cycle, it feels like he's repeating it.
Has anyone else dealt with something like this? How did you handle it? Did things ever improve, or did you just accept that's how the relationship was going to be?
So my parents decided to get a cat 2 years back. fine, cool, i love her. but now she's got some stomach issues going on and instead of taking her to the vet immediately my dad is being a total ass about it and my mom won't shut up about how broke they are and how they can't afford it. like??? if you can't afford basic vet care don't get a pet in the first place.
I give absolutely 0 fucks if it costs you $5000 lmao. You should have thought of the worst case scenario when you were getting something LIVING. It's a living being that depends on you completely. you brought her into this house, you're responsible for her, end of story. I don't give a shit about anything else. Not Your stupid sob stories, not your stupid excuses and certainly not your dumbass excuse to be broke.
i don't have a job right now so i can't cover the bill myself, which makes this so much worse bc i'm watching her potentially suffer and i have zero power to just fix it. I did not buy her, they did. And instead of them feeling the looming responsibility im the only one that gives a shit about her. Im the only fucking one who is trying to work smth around and calling vets and shit. These mindless fuckers cannot do it. Oh ofcourse i forgot they dont give a shit about their kids. What would they care about a cat. And they have the nerve to tell me i live off of them and am not responsible for anything. Yeah NO SHIT BECAUSE IM NOT THE FUCKING ONE POPPING OUT KIDS I CANT AFFORD OR TAKING IN A CAT I CANT TAKE CARE OF.
And their lack of financial planning is already an issue with me because these idiots decided to pop out 3 kids with no financial planning.
i am so angry i can barely think straight. if you're going to bring up money every time your pet (or kid) needs something, you should not have gotten one. it's not that complicated.
I want to get out of this shit house and go no contact with these heartless fucks once and for all. They're as good as murderers to me rn. The rage is so blinding I could genuinely break everything around me
Ok this is kind of a question. My boyfriend, and my mom both do this and I actually hate it like I genuinely get irritated instantly. Anytime I talk to my mother I’ll say “I’m about to make something to eat I’ve only eaten ___ today” she’ll respond with “more than me, I only had ____” OR she’ll move on to “I’ve been craving ___” and I’ll tell her to get it and she’ll say “I don’t have the money” and my boyfriend is the same like he’ll say “I’m eating sleep for dinner” or like when someone is saying something like “I really wanna get ____” or “I really wanna ____” and then continue to say “but I don’t have the money” in THAT SPECIFIC TONE OF VOICE IDK HOW TO EXPLAIN IT. Does this get on anyone else’s nerves or am I just a bad daughter/girlfriend?? Or do I need therapy or what
Help me get out of town or my contacts or something please. I’m leaving and only one person can come with. Only if you bring a car and pick me up. Let’s start over somewhere else
Since it’s 250 my brother 19M has been really excited for Fourth of July this weekend. He wanted us to go see the towns parade and fireworks show, but I 14F am very sensitive to different sounds. I told my family I wouldn’t want to see the fireworks cause of the noise but that we could watch it on TV. They said we could do that or my dad and brother would just go themselves, which sounded good to me. I didn’t end up going to the parade because of the heat. When my dad and brother got home, my brother was holding a huge pack of fireworks. I really wanted to just say something and yell at them but I knew I couldn’t just do that. My family is acting like it’s no big deal and ignoring the fact I said I hate fireworks. I haven’t said anything because I know if I did, they’d set them off anyway.
edit: i do realize now that I am acting like it is all about me. thanks for helping me realize that. I will work on trying to be better than that
I genuinely have no hope for humanity. There are so many ignorant people that are choosing to not believe in climate change, and they are actively aiding the ruin of Earth. I don't believe that humans will even begin to fix the climate. We have so many factories that are burning fossil fuels, so many people are littering, wars are happening which prevents global teamwork. We have billionaires, millionaires, and a TRILLIONAIRE in the U.S. and all of these people like Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos are putting a lot of their funding into AI which is also ruining our climate. There are so many horrible things that horrible people are doing. I can't even talk about everything I want to. Also the United States isn't united anymore. Donald Trump is ruining our country and so many ignorant, non-thinking mouth breathers are not realizing that we need to unite as people and fix how horrible our country is. It seems like everyone forgot about the Epstein files and nothing has been done about the raping and murdering and trafficking and assaulting and kidnapping and eating of babies. I'm not even going to touch on Israel right now, but it feels like Israel owns America, and there's nothing we can do about the elite billionaires basically being untouchable. The Rockefellers, Morgans, Rothschilds, Carnegies, Vanderbilts are all untouchable. I don't believe in conspiracy theories very often, but I could believe that all these families basically own Earth and operate everything if there was some proof. But, the only reason for me posting this was not to rant. I want anyone to give me hope. Give me anything that will help me to be happy. Any good news. Even good news from you, like if you got engaged. I'm just never happy anymore. There's a lot of personal things I may also touch on in another post. Just give me any good news. Global, personal, related to climate, politics, or anything.. please.
The money there’s being stolen from me totals well over $300 million and anyone who brings me evidence of the videos creator or conspirators will get a very large reward. Whether you were involved or not, the first person to speak up is the only one that gets a free pass.
I don't know why, but ever since I can remember I've had this massive inclination to fight and debate things for no reason. I don't even notice I'm doing it sometimes, it's like breathing. I see every interaction like there's a winner and loser and will systematically and aggressively counter every command, opinion, or piece of advice I'm given, and when people inevitably become irate and stop responding, it feels abrupt and unjust to me, leaving me very frustrated and like I can't have conversations or help doesn't exist for me. Not only that, but I will regularly seek out posts on here where I can argue about something in a drawn out, unnecessarily inflammatory way because the fact that I have this urge to be right and "win" makes me assume everyone else does too and I have to overcompensate for their theoretical aggression, paradoxically triggering it. I legitimately don't know how to respond to people in a different way. Do you relate? What are you supposed to say when someone tells you something you already knew or gives you advice you already tried?
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I hate it so much when people who have loving families, a large social circle, a source of money they dont even know where it came from and a beautiful face think their lifes suck and that they have been through things in life.
I have this one friend who is very attractive and gets a lot of male attention and attention in general because she is a social butterfly, have loving family and is very very well off thinks she has been through trauma and bad times in life and reposted about it even though shes been through nothing for fucks sake. The reason she thinks she's been through depression is because she broke up with her boyfriend even though she didn't even care about him and told everyone during their relationship she doesn't gaf about him and wasn't bothered by the break up.
You guys may argue that you never know what happens behind closed doors but I kid you not my friend shares everything online and it's obvious what she has and what she doesn't. She is very fucking well off very rich and shit and thinks having certain things and designer items are "common" and "normal". On her tiktok she keeps reposting about being able to empathise and sympathise when she only does it to seem morally good as a image for others and not genuine. She reposts about feminism and freeing gaza and stuff when she doesn't even know how to relate to basic human feelings lol. She also likes to repost about saving the environment and polar bears and to cut out AI and brands and irl she is the no 1 ai user. She doesn't use her brain to do things and instead turns to ai to make the work easier and she's out here reposting fucking nonsense.
She reposted once on how people have not grown up yet and how they are still living in a fantasy life and not waking up to the real world when she is describing exactly herself. All her politic stand points come from fucking tiktok and she doesn't think for herself. She thinks there is such things as best friends in politics and pinky promises and she is out here making fun of others for not being awake to reality. My guy you haven't been through jackshit. You have parents who talk to you and care about you, support you financially, emotionally and physically. Who listen to you, bring you out, you havent been through fucking shit you have never been through abuse or having to sit in the toilet during lunch to avoid being judged by schoolmates. Have never been through poverty or having to spend at a very very limited budget. Have never grown up ugly or poor or fat and still think she has been through it all.
On top of that, I really hate entitled attractive people. Not that I'm insecure or anything i have very attractive friends who I absolutely admire because they are very capable and beautiful at the same time, which inspires me. But this particular friend built her confidence over external sources (appearance) she has never done anything that requires hard work and disciplince yet she acts like she built her shit brick by brick. I just get so mad when people are only confident because they have an external source and not because they built it internally and from hardships. I know this is an insecurity of mine and I'm jealous of those who have it easier because they were born with an advantage but hey this is r/vent 😡 I'm just so mad and annoyed that she thinks she has been through all of lifes challenges when she has never grown up ugly, poor, fat or through abuse. Also her confidence is not actual confidence but just arrogance and I'm not saying this out of spite and jealousy but it is actually true. You can tell by the way she treats people. She only gives good things and acts kind around those with authority or the weak, doesn't listen to criticism and curses at you when you call her out and shit. Doesn't hold her promises and still thinks she is the most reliable person on earth.
I don't get why I'm so annoyed and affected by this, but I'm just really mad. All in all, I hate it when people act like they've got the confidence and the experience when it all comes from external sources not internally and is arrogance and entitlement in disguise. Also when they think they have it rough when they have not even scratched the surface of lifes challenges.
TW - mention of substance abuse will be in this post.
I am 19F and am looking for support, advice, direction, maybe even a wake up call on how to handle this situation with my mother. I’m in disbelief, I’m hurt, Shocked, all of the feelings.
Ever since around age 6 my mom had begun to treat me differently and almost as if I wasn’t a child let alone hers. My mom was a stay at home mom and I am the only child, My mother would sleep almost all day and only ever be awake during ungodly hours of the night, Which in return made me grow up way faster then I should’ve, Leading me to learn to cook for myself, Take care of myself, And much more, During around age 8 I started to uncover her lies and secrets and abuse of drugs, To the point she would even take me on the runs to get them, and often do them in front of me. as a kid I didn’t really understand, But It did alter my feelings for her heavily in which I started not listening to her and obeying her, Which started her negative opinion on me and almost a hatred for me.
My entire childhood leading up until my teenage years she continued to choose drugs over me, These drugs made her incapable of taking care of daily chores and things that needed to be done, Getting me to places I needed to be on time, granted I was homeschooled so she had a big advantage there. From ages 10-16 I felt as if I was the mother, Constantly cooking meals for the both of us, Cleaning the entire house, Taking care of the animals, and so much more. But all of this was never enough for her, She’d constantly criticize everything i did and if it wasn’t to her liking, She would punish me by taking my phone or tv, Or certain privileges.
To this day, She still partakes in drugs after trying to get her help and off of them, She denies all of it. It want until 18 I finally let her know that I knew all of her secrets and the fact drugs allowed her to be a present yet absent mother, but her response is I was a difficult child and disrespected her, So she was teaching me a lesson.
Despite all of this, I still love and care for her so i’ve never walked away or cut her off, It’s a tough situation to be in. Fast forward to 2025, Me, My mother, And grandmother are living together due to the fact my mother doesn’t have her own place, She’s never really had a job or anything of her own and relies on other people, I stay here because I take care of my grandmother. Here’s where the story really starts to take a turn and where I am having a hard time coming to terms with all of it.
June 1st she left the home to go to her dads house, She often goes there to do little jobs and make money, she told me she would be back within a week or so, But after a whole month of asking her when she’d be back she basically tells me she doesn’t know. She has basically abandoned my life and when I mention this to her she flips the script, I have attached screenshots below of our conversation, The biggest thing that’s getting me is I treat her badly, And i’m not a good person, When i feel i’ve taken care of her since i was a child. It’s really hard to understand this all and if anyone can offer advice or help me come to terms with the best decision i’d really appreciate it, do i cut her off? Should i continue feeling guilty or bad?
Note in the screenshots her saying she’s being treated badly is due to the fact I call her out on her bs such as drugs and not being there for me, the scribbled name is someone she compares me to she also dislikes (so do i so it’s a jab) and the photo of the kitchen aid was also a jab as it’s something i’ve openly expressed wanting badly as my passion is baking and she sent a photo of one she bought for her dad with the money she’s made.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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Summer came, people are barely covering their sweaty bodies at all. See through shirts that don't even cover all the chest hair, shorty shorts that show all the muscles moving with every step. Hair, sweat, fat, active skin, my brain constantly jumps to "shit, I wonder it would feel like under your fingers", "damn, that smell, bet you'd like to get closer, sink your face in that reek". It's gross. Just reducing people to meat like that. Just more fuel for my instincts screaming at me for failing to experience the most pointless, basic aspects of human connection. I just can't deal with this anymore. Just today I have four cuts due for those thoughts and it's barely 4pm. For a lot of people winter is the worst, because the lack of sun makes it easier for thoughts to run free and the touch starvation gets worse without warmth of sunshine, but it's the sun being out and people acting accordingly and reasonably that sends me down every time I leave home.
I am unsure of why I am writing this. Maybe I'm seeking sympathy, maybe I want to find someone with a similar story. Either way, I want to share my experience.
I, 16 F, was bullied in middle school. I had gained a significant amount of weight due to depression at 13, and the boys in my school would never let me forget it. They would repeatedly ask me out as a joke, make sexual comments about my body as a joke. It happened daily, and slowly made me disgusted with myself. I dreaded going to school, as they treated me as a joke. The bullying lasted from 13-15, two years. I developed bulimia and lost an extreme amount of weight in less than a year. I now talk to a therapist that is kind but has done nothing to my mental health.
High school gave me a chance to be rid of the bullying, but I still feel it everyday. In every glance and interaction as I walk through the hallways-I feel like a joke. This is the part that I feel guilty over, but I have grown a resentment towards men (except family). Everytime I talk to a man, I expect him to laugh in my face and make a cruel comment about my looks, I do not expect him to treat me like a human. This can change over time, I have multiple male aquientences.
My friends around me are all falling in love. Before everything went down, I had fallen in love twice, once with a girl and once with a boy. Now, I cannot see myself romantically or sexually with anyone. I have nightmares where I fall in love, but all I can hear is the laughing of my former bullies as they make comments about my body.
Xirena - a brand I love - have a sale on and everything on sale is final sale. I own many of their tops in different models - all medium. So I order a different model tshirt described as easy fit in a boxy cut in a size medium.
Well they arrived (and are not cheap even on sale) and I am so pissed. I cannot get them on me they are so small. I am showing a side by side comparison of my usual tee in a size small (the white) against the new style (black) in a medium!!!!
I contacted their customer service who told me that these have totally different fit profiles and that they wouldn’t be doing anything, however there was nothing in the description to say it was a fitted style (or cropped). Even their measurements are the same on the size guide.
Am I wrong to be mad???😡
I got scoldings for having lunch with a guy at office. By my cousin we , we weren't even sitting next to each other.
Some girl used the wrong washroom and the hr had though me and the girl would discuss it. In fact I had showed her the washroom once still.
I made the internship report wrong which was submitted to the director " I was told at 6 to submit it by 7 "