u/SubstantialGolf9492

My girlfriend just made me feel so shit over my name, I was crying on call with her and she just told me to quit whining. I don't even know what the fuck to do. she said its dumb and gay and ugly and feminine and I just feel so defeated. I don't even know why I try anymore. She just told me to shut up and that I switch names every week/year/whatever. She keeps trying to get my to change my name to one that is "easier" and sounds closer to my birth name.

Title. I'm seventeen years old and have known pretty much my whole life that I am transgender but only recently have I decided to accept myself. It feels great to finally know who I am! However I'm not out to anybody, and if I'm going to come out I would tell my mom first. The problem is I really cannot stand my body right now, and I desperately want to feel more in line with my gender. Because of that I am considering telling her while I come out that I want this. I'm worried this might be too much for her because I'm telling her a lot and I don't want her to think I'm rushing her. I am also 97% sure she knows I am trans. Any advice or just anything in general would be appreciated. Thank you.