Girlfriend and I realized we don’t do anything in our free time. Work, eat, sleep, chill on our weekends and prepare for the work week… falling into the normal cycle a lot do. Starting to forget what our hobbies are. It’s just work at this point. What would you recommend us to do? We forgot what we like to be honest, working and recouping is just who we are now. Any advice?
Young couple 27 visiting Toronto for the weekend. Suggestions?
So here’s the situation, who do I talk to? Everytime I try to talk to anyone to get to the next level in life I get called ungrateful, a brat, say I need ADHD med, therapy. I just want to be successful and work as hard as possible when I’m young and grow my income so I can do something amazing for my parents and my girlfriends parents. I am doing great, I am grateful, I just know I can do so much better and more and everytime I ask for advice people think I’m crazy and make me feel like I need help.
M(27) with girlfriend (26). We operate as one unit so combined we make $150k a year pre tax. Have a $300k house with $280k left on the loan. All debt has been paid off (except house), two new cars one gas truck and one electric car paid off. We are saving 2k a month as of recently. I’m sure we can tighten up and put more into savings if needed.
At the rate we are going I am comfortable. Work is chill, life is chill, bills are chill, savings is chill… that makes me feel uncomfortable. I want to show off what I can do… I just don’t know what.
I have tons of ideas, tons. Better ideas every week, unfortunately, having too many new ideas leads me all over the place and not focusing on one at a time or a couple at a time like I should.
I don’t just want to let 30 years pass by and I slowly save up and let money accrue via interest, slowly pay off the house and then the paying three times more than what I should’ve. I want to take risks now and work hard now so that intend or 20 years I can let off the gas and chill. Or even in a few years feel comfortable, giving my parents plenty of money or being able to take care of the community and really help at a massive level and quite frankly where I’m at right now is not cutting it. I hope you guys understand where I’m coming from, thank you for your time.
M(27) with girlfriend (26). We operate as one unit so combined we make $150k a year pre tax. Have a $300k house with $280k left on the loan out in Ellenton. All debt has been paid off (except house), two new cars one gas one electric paid off. We are saving 2k a month as of recently (we’re focusing on all debts). I’m sure we can tighten up and put more into it. Anyway I need help.
I’m just anxious all the time… it consumes my mind. I feel like I want so much more like this isn’t even close to what I want. Money doesn’t go very far though and even then I don’t know what to do and I’m always all over the place. One second I’m talking about buying land, next second I’m talking about starting up a business, next second I’m talking about buying someone else’s business, next second I’m saying we need a real estate license, next second I’m buying stuff off Facebook marketplace and reselling it, next second I’m on a kick about not wanting to trade time for money and would rather do things that take upfront time and can accumulate value over time (trees, bushes, wholesale), then next week I’m saying we need to save every dollar we have and not spend a dollar on anything that’s just “consumerism” and just invest it all if we want to be free later in life. So even then that’s conflicting because one second I’m like hey let’s try and rent this house out, move into a small apartment to save up quickly, then buy another house….. but then I’m just taking out more loans and last week I was talking about freedoms and owning nobody… I also go into a full blown kick about working to pay off the house so we owe nothing. My thing with that is I’d rather rent it out and have someone else pay for the house(in theory), and then get a house out on some land and fulfill my passion of living off the land (not to be confused with full blown off grid living, just raising simple animals, growing tons of vegetables, and giving to family and friends)… just can’t afford anything extra at the moment to start that life, fyi current house is 3b 2bth, on .13 acres.
My girl is willing to support any decision I make even if I say her let’s move to Zimbabwe and start all over, which just leaves me with more stress on what decisions I need to make because I want to make the best decision for us and our family.
I want to have enough money to be able to great and amazing things for my parents, her parents, and her and quite frankly after all expenses, I’m not even close.
I don’t know if this anxiousness is because I am simply working on somebody else’s time and not building anything for myself, or if I feel like I’m not working hard enough. I’m honestly not sure but I know I want to change something and re-spark that feeling inside of me knowing I’m doing an accomplishment great things.
Is this feeling of not doing enough normal? Even if I double my income will I still have this feeling? What can I do that can really take us to the next level and really changed our lives.
Thank you I understand. I am all over the place, sorry in advanced.