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First a question: his depressive episodes align with life events. We thought he just battled depression because of this. He says he’s always been depressed on and off for as long as he remembers but in the decade I’ve known him he’s had 2 big stretches and one coincided with a series of events where life had kicked him down and the second was a major life event that was extremely positive but stressful at the same time and it brought up a lot of trauma and negative emotions. For those who have been diagnosed properly, is your depression unexplained or is it sometimes triggered?

I love my husband very much. He’s an amazing person. He has battled depression and I’ve supported him. Looking into mania I’m wondering if the spurts between depressive episodes are manic episodes. I did what all 20somethings do and I googled and watch YouTube videos lol and 2 things really stuck out to me.

During these “manic” episodes he does have delusions of grandeur and ideas of reference. For example: God has made him struggle so hard so that he can become the strong and sharp tool needed to do something extraordinary like he wants to become a green beret and save all of the children being trafficked in Colombia or something. And he will see signs everywhere that confirm his beliefs. He has a high work threshold so even these huge bursts of energy didn’t phase me like on a normal day he can run 10 miles and still go do a blue collar job on 5hrs of sleep and 2 energy drinks. (When he’s depressed he quits whatever job he has and doesn’t leave the house). This is the only thing that pulls him out of the depression. He rationalizes that all of the hardship is for a reason and it’s been put on me because I’m supposed to do something amazing. So he rationalizes what’s negative and he boosts his own sense of self after feeling so low for so long.

I feel absolutely horrible for saying this. I saw a video where it was mentioned that the bipolar person loves being manic because it’s a break from the depression and I completely understood. I’m so exhausted by the depression that when he’s manic I’m just happy to see him smile and if he’s going a little too hard on the positivity who am I to tell him he can’t do xyz? I just thought he suffered with bouts of depression but now that I’m suspecting bipolar? I’m wondering if I’ve made things worse or if this is even mania? I’ve always genuinely thought that he could do anything he sets his mind to so when he says he wants to first get in shape then get his shoulder repaired then beat the odds and join the most elite special forces team in his 30’s and then save all the children in Colombia? I’m like you know what? When you’re good you are a damn work horse and you do the damn thing and if this gives you purpose? How can we make it happen? Where do we start? He’s not like I’m going to sign up tomorrow!More that he starts getting a plan together that sounds a little unattainable but he’ll say something like “you know me! You know how much I can get done when I’m in it! Okay maybe it’ll take an extra year but I’m going to try to make it by this timeline I really think I can do it if I focus!”

The problem is that we cannot afford therapy right now. Even if we could, he’s not sold on the idea of going to therapy. He is terrified of psych meds and I’m terrified of him taking them too. His moods are so extreme that I’m afraid that it will make his brain chemistry even worse or it could completely dull him to the point where he hates himself and I know him and if that happened he’d impulsively flush the pills down the toilet and I know those meds are really important to wean down from under supervision if you choose to stop taking them.

For both of us, the state that he’s in now is preferred. He’s not depressed and he’s not manic right now. (I don’t think) I’m afraid that bringing up bipolar disorder could trigger another depressive episode. My mental health takes a toll too and we have too many responsibilities where if he can’t do what he needs to do I cannot drop the ball this time. I can’t miss work. I can’t not sleep. I can’t be emotionally drained every day. We have too much on our plates right now. I’m tempted to just pray that this good mood lasts a while until life settles down and maybe just address it later on but I don’t know how I would bring it up and I don’t know how it would help if we can’t get him help? Does just knowing you have bipolar help you understand and cope? Is knowing you have bipolar a game changer? How do I explain my suspicions he has mania? I’m his number 1 supporter and I can’t imagine telling him he has delusions of grandeur because he wants to do xyz and I don’t believe he can even if he does. Before I learned to look for delusions of grandeur I thought you know what it’s tough and it’s far fetched but maybe he can do it? Why not try? It’s not that I don’t believe in him but the aspirations are pretty extreme. My fears are that he’ll believe me and look into it and find out he does have bipolar and it will trigger a depressive episode OR he won’t believe and he’ll be offended and he’ll start seeing me as someone who thinks he’s crazy and needs to be force fed happy pills.

If knowing changes things entirely and helps the (possibly) bipolar person how can I bring it up in a way that won’t hurt his feelings or in a way where I’m not dropping a bomb or maybe in some way that I can leave breadcrumbs for him to figure out himself? I’m not sure what might be best. I want to do whatever I can do to help him but I can’t force him to do anything so let’s just say therapy and meds are off the table.

I have severe ADHD lol and I can’t mask at home I just can’t so my husband knows all of my quirks lol. Not saying Alex has adhd but she’s a fuckin liar and she lies about everything under the sun.

I just read some comments about how Alex “hit a wall when she met Yar” and that it’s because she’s trying to portray this fake life and the lies are stressful. Do we think it’s that she’s lying to the world or do we think that with Alan he knew she was a lazy slob and with Yar Alex has always tried to deceive him. From day 1 he “loved her hustle” when we all know this girl is lazy as hell and she was “super into fitness and getting healthy NOT skinny” and we all know she’s allergic to physical exertion. I’m sure Yar sees it whether Alex realizes it or not but do we think that she thinks Yar still sees her as a hardworking successful put together woman? Lmao if she can’t even be herself at home I can see why she’s so anxious all the time.

I think some things she hides from Yar for sure are:

Her drive thru binges

Her “daily 3 mile walks”

Her “time with Anderson” really she’s just sitting him down with ms Rachel while she’s eating or watching tv

How much she works. She’ll say something took her all day but the editing took 2hrs but the filtering took the rest of the day lol or she took 6 naps in between

Yall I’m watching Chikaras last video on Amber Lynn’s new diet or whatever and I haven’t checked in on ALR in forever but I started cackling when I realized 600lb Amber actually eats more veggies in one day than Alex has all year hahahaha

I’ve worked in the medical field but a very niche set of patients lol I remember going over diabetes for like 2 weeks in school so can someone explain like I’m 10yo how she’s gaming the system with her gestational diabetes test?

Has anyone done GD with glucose monitoring vs the same day blood test? What’s the protocol? Eat like normal and test blood sugar after meals for a week and report your results? So if she eats low glycemic index foods only during those days her numbers will read lower? If that’s the case then isn’t it still accurate? Because low glycemic index foods will spike her slightly so that slight spike will give a picture of her body’s response to glucose whether it’s a small spike from sweet potatoes or a large spike from a donut or are you also keeping a food log and they’re comparing what foods correlate to what numbers?

First, can yall catch me up with a quick summary? I’ve read here and there but not sure what all really happened throughout this pregnancy. I saw something about placenta previa?

Regardless, I’ve worked in the medical field but not a specialist at all in women’s health so here’s my opinion based solely on my own knowledge:

This baby will be born prematurely.

If she births vaginally it will be an induction and she’ll lie about the induction.

If it’s a c-section, it WILL NOT BE A SCHEDULED C-SECTION. It will be an EMERGENCY C-SECTION. She has a history of blood clots, she’s only 20something weeks and cannot breathe, she’s 375lbs, she’s had multiple abdominal surgeries but the one that will impact her the most will be the plus size tummy tuck, she does no cardio so her heart is weak for how hard she makes it work, it’s so dangerous to administer anesthesia to obese people let alone this super morbidly obese pregnant woman, she has a history of skin fold infections so idk about adding surgical incisions when you don’t have to and finally as a rule of thumb, when you have someone who is already THAT obese you really don’t want to give them yet another excuse to limit activity because it goes downhill very quickly. If Alex was bed bound for 3 weeks to recover from a c-section she would likely have a hard time walking one block because how quickly her body will decondition and atrophy and she’ll probably gain 25lbs in those 3 weeks if she’s just in bed watching love island and eating.

My question for anyone who has more experience in women’s health is are there any reasons that her OB would opt for a scheduled c-section vs a scheduled induction for a vaginal birth? Because if not, then we know she’s a liar if she ends up having her baby via c-section. Any common sense doctor would
Make c-section a last resort option for Alex imo and if she did have a c-section she would lie and pretend it was no big deal