my partner is an amazing person when happy, but when we get in arguments just like any couple do, they always find a way to flip the issue to make themselves be the victim and try to guilt trip me and apologize and make up for it. I want to find a way to make it work but if I ever criticise it is taken as an offense and darvo happens again and again which makes it so difficult. I am 100% sure it is not narcissism, it is childhood trauma from a very strict mother who constantly critisized what my partner did and I feel as a defense mechanism this approach was formed, so how can we make it work? never arguing is not an option obviously... so I want to see if someone has gone through this with their partner and what advise you can give?