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Well the title says it all. I’ve had a hunch this week (Wednesday) because I always set his alarms for him when he’s falling asleep for bed but that night I was doing it & he he asked me what I was doing on his phone when he saw it in my hand. I thought that was a weird thing to say because he never cares if I have his cellphone. We’ve been together for years & the last time we broke up, 3 years ago he was seeing this a girl named Jessica. They had sex & it was unprotected because she was claiming she may be pregnant by him (I saw his messages with her in 2023) I was also seeing other people. We both decided we wanted to get back together for our then 8 year old & leave the past behind. Back to the present, I decided after the comment he made I was going to look at his phone that night & see what made him act so funny. Sure enough his Instagram app was deleted, which is WEIRD we always message one another funny videos on that app & we both actively use it to talk when he works so no reason to delete it.. sure enough I re install it & open it & there she was. Jessica with a message thread. 2 unread messages waiting, the thread had disappearing messages turned on. So I could only see that day. I saw flirting between them both, him saying “I’m sorry I couldn’t see you but I’ll try this Sunday “ & another of her sending a pic of her body. Then he sent one of himself. Clothes on. THIS TIME. I immediately started crying & freaking out. I just couldn’t believe what I was reading. I felt gut punched. He was making plans to see her? Why? My baby shower is this Saturday. Anyway I confronted him & he said it was a mistake & a “hiccup” & he doesn’t know what he was thinking. He said it was over with. I had no choice but to believe him & go to sleep. Or try. I didn’t sleep much that night. Next morning, he left for work at 5am. The usual. I checked his Instagram on his laptop to see if he really meant he was not going to speak to her & guess what? He messaged her and said “sorry my girl is on me” she said “yea I know” & then he literally said “I do want to see you & be intimate trust me but I don’t think it’s possible & I don’t want to hurt my fam.” She said “I’ve waited 3 years for you & I’ll wait months or years anytime you want to come back but you always do this to me. I still accept you & I had a hard time getting over you after 3 years.” He said “I accept you too but it really can’t work unless it’s discreet” when I tell you reading that absolutely made me spiral. I could not believe instead of breaking it off he was just apologizing for ME catching them & saying it can’t work UNLESS they hide it better.” Then she sent him her phone number and said to use what’s app to talk. Then the messages went silent. Of course I know they took the conversation to what’s app. I’m not an idiot but I did not have access to that app since it’s on his cellphone & he was working at the moment but I cried so much & could only imagine what they were talking about now. Not only that she knows about me & that I am about to have his baby I’m due November 20th & she still wants to talk to him & is more than willing to be sneaky with him. They both make me feel like I’m a big dumb idiot pregnant girl who is crying trying to keep my family together & they’re acting as if I’m the issue.. anyway I confronted him AGAIN after work & he said the usual he’s “sorry” he doesn’t know what he’s thinking but how hurt I was really is hurting him & he doesn’t want to lose me so he really is done with her & he is really cutting her off. Again I have no other choice but to let it go. I’m pregnant almost due, no job, we share a jeep suv & he drives a my gold Camry to work (it’s not in the best shape bc he doesn’t take care of it) but the jeep was gifted to us by his sister for our Family & I take great care of it. I do all the maintenance & keep up with the oil changes, keeping it clean, etc. but it’s technically not mine. I can’t move anywhere because I don’t have any money & I can’t stay with my parents because my sister is currently moving in with her again to save money. There’s no room for me. I feel very trapped. But that’s not the end of it. I knew he wasn’t done talking to this girl Jessica because she actively seeks him out when he doesn’t reply (in the past I saw this) & she just went radio silent? I didn’t believe it. Well last night I checked his photos and he had 3 photos that were saved from what’s app. One his a selfie of him at work that I never got. The other is his work site, & the last was a nude of his hard penis. THAT IS WHEN I WENT CRAZY. I began to sike out. He was in bed & I woke him up & said I knew you weren’t telling me truth why are you sending her these pictures why are you naked? Why?! Why! WHY!!! & he took the naked pic of himself when I was at my best friends house & it was in OUR bathroom. My thing is, what were they texting about for him to become so aroused ? She makes him so sexually aroused that he took a picture and shared it with her & we’ve had makeup sex 2 times after the first argument because I was so emotional & I just wanted to feel loved. But no, he wants her. It feels like I am now the issue & im getting in the way of them seeing each other & it feels like he is going to see her one way or another now. I mean I can’t keep stalking his cellphone everytime I see now it’s escalating into something more & more & im looking like a fool. I want advice now. I know I want to break up with him. I know this means he doesn’t love me because I cried so much my belly became so tight. I didn’t eat or sleep much this week & I even felt suicidal last night. What do I do? I have no options & it feels like that’s why he chose to cheat on me right now because I am stuck & I can’t leave because I’m so pregnant. I feel so betrayed and sick. I can’t even look him the same anymore. He apologized again but I don’t trust a word he says. He seems to really like this girl & I feel like I am the problem. Please someone tell me why he would do something like this to me when I’ve been loyal and pregnant. That’s all.

So long story short I am 28 weeks pregnant 30 years old and this is my second pregnancy. My first pregnancy I was only 19 turning 20 and it was a breeze! Granted I was young but I didn’t have any health issues or issues with delivery. My daughter was a healthy 6lb baby! Fast forward to this pregnancy and I failed my first glucose test. I was at 130. I took my 3 hour test and passed! I was so elated & happy and I’m sure I ate more carbs than prior due to me feeling like I was in the “clear”. Today I went to my OB appointment 3 weeks after my test and my doc says I failed the first hour of the three hour so he considers that barely passing and to cut down on my carb intake. I naturally feel freaked out because this entire time I’ve been eating carbs like crazy, thinking I am in the clear. When I say I crave carbs I mean, pasta, fried rice, tacos, etc. the works! And I still have a good fruit intake being that I crave it a lot too, But I just feel so worried because he said he doesn’t want my baby to be too big but we won’t measure him until another month from now and we didn’t measure him this visit or the last. I do wish he would have told me I barely passed when it happened because I felt so confident that I didn’t think I was borderline with any Gestational Diabetes. He said we won’t check my sugar levels again but he will monitor the baby’s growth. I’m adjusting my diet accordingly now and I’ve decided although I don’t have an official diagnosis I guess I have to treat as such. Has anyone ever been told to “cut down on carbs”? This is new to me. With my daughter I indulged in everything I wanted so i feel like ive done something wrong this time around.

I’ve already previously posted how my spouse who I don’t even want to call a spouse has been acting since pregnancy began. Today I got a call that I MAY have Gestational Diabetes and of course the control freak I live with used that as a reason to berate me and say it’s cause I’ve been drinking sugary drinks and have a poor diet. He said I don’t make my 10 year old or myself do any exercise and he’s been telling me for months and he was right all along. I mean that part I could deal with, it did bother me but I thought okay. Maybe I could use a diet change and a bit of walking. Fine. Right after we have meet the teacher night he says “let’s go to do 2 laps of walking” I didn’t want to. I said I’d rather do indoor exercise because we live in Texas and it’s almost 100 degrees or higher everyday. Especially in August. He said we had no choice, I said I would walk to check our mailbox, it’s a bit far in our complex. Almost half a mile from our unit, he said if I didn’t choose to walk now he would take our daughter and go anyway. I know she doesn’t like being with him when he’s in a mood and he certainly was and I knew he would push her. I didn’t want that. So I said I’d go. Just to keep the peace. We walk a mile, then my daughter who isn’t use to this at all tripped and fell and scrapped her knee. She began to bleed and cry and I just lost it!!! He usually makes me cry but making her cry broke me and I could tell she just isn’t use to this yet and poor thing is being punished for me might have GD.. I want to leave so badly. But he’s threatened to take away both our kids. And on top of that I have no money or no job. I have a cat here that I can’t take to my moms because she and I already have issues. I don’t know what to do. I’m really done being here and he ruined my daughter’s day for meet the teacher. She will always associate this day with her dad forcing us to walk a mile and her falling and crying and us arguing. Someone please tell me what I should do.

My spouse and I have been together on & off for over 12 years. We had our first child at 19/20 and she was a surprise. We had normal issues that young parents sometimes and A little over a year ago we finally got our own apartment with our now 11 year old and things were going so well between us. It felt very good and we always spoke of having another kid and finally we agreed we wanted one since things felt in place for once. (We use to live with my parents for a couple of years) I’m now 6 months into pregnant pregnancy and we have been very happy, we wanted a boy and that’s what we are having! So all great news. I couldn’t be more blessed. My daughter is happy to be a big sister and we always wanted her to have a sibling. This week we went on vacation with my spouse’s family. It was a 7 hour drive from our home (a bit stressful) & my spouse’s job was not too keen on him taking a vacation so suddenly. He gave them a month notice to leave for 4 days even though he was aware of this vacation back in April. (He does that often but I look past those things) the second night of vacation we began to argue. His older sister has never been kind to me and she’s usually enticing him to buy beer and drink with her or just do what she wants to do and leave me high and dry. I’m 6 months so of course I can’t participate and also I’ve never been much of a drinker.. I told him I didn’t want him to drink because he’s really not the best drunk. He either gets sloppy or argues with me over the most insane things. His family knows I don’t like him to drink but they still let him do it almost to spite me. His mom saw him chugging 2 beers before we took our daughter and his niece who is 6 to see a movie at the beach, and I told him “please don’t drink those because you don’t need to drink to have fun” and she just kept driving the car and acted as if I never said a word and she didn’t chime in once to tell him “hey maybe consider what she is saying just for the vacation and for the sake of everyone having a good time” after all it’s not just his vacation it was ours too and most importantly our daughter’s. In my eyes her happiness and enjoyment is the most important. Luckily he didn’t get drunk because he was unable to drink anymore during the movie (he only brought a couple of beers from his 6 pack so really he just couldn’t chug more) the last day of our vacation his family wanted to go deep sea fishing. This was unplanned and that day we were suppose to leave at 8am back home since the drive is a bit far. I stated I would rather just go home than for him to go deep sea fishing since our 10 year old and myself couldn’t participate anyway. This became an argument. He said I was ruining HIS vacation and HE deserved a good time because he works all the time. I don’t work right now since I’m pregnant and I had the worst morning sickness for 3 months when I first found out. I trusted that he would be fine working full time for our family. His mom AND sister then came into our bedroom at the air bnb the night before the deep sea fishing and said they were all going to fill out their fishing licenses. I said how I felt about him going and that I was really just exhausted from the entire trip, being that I’m pregnant and just ready to home. Not only that our cat sitter was leaving Saturday morning so this was not in the plans! At all! His sister of course contradicted me and said “well he didn’t go last year.” (He didn’t go the year before because he got too dunk against my better wishes and didn’t wake up in time) which I said! And his mom of course ignored me & said “well we were suppose to go today but we had to go tomorrow.” As if that makes me feel better either way. It was unplanned for us, my small family. Long story short, they left out bedroom immediately after I said that like “oh let’s leave her alone she’s so moody” when I’m pregnant and tired!! And it was not planned!! But guess what? At 5am I hear a knock at our bedroom door and he wakes up and gets clothes and I realized he was STILL going fishing even though it would take hours. I felt so hurt and betrayed because not only was he still going but he belittled me and argued with me the night prior because he said he wasn’t going and I was not letting him do anything he couldn’t experience as a child. Like that’s my fault his mom and dad didn’t give me a fun childhood, our 10 year old had to hear the whole thing too. Him saying that I need to act like a lady because I’m pregnant and to quit being so dramatic. Yet he still went. We endured the argument for him to still have his sister wake him up “secretly” knocking for him to go. We ended up getting back home past 12am because he went on the fishing trip. At this point I feel like an idiot. His family has never been big fans of me and I stupidly thought to have another baby with him and they treat me like I’m just some girl who is moody and complains about everything. Today he said that my MIL said I need to let him be a man and I can’t control everything he does. How dare she say that? When she has no idea or maybe could care less of how he treats me and speaks to me. What hurt me most is today I dumbly brought up how upset his family made me during the trip and he said I always complain and bitch and that I’m not even a catch. He said I’m a “6”. Not that good looking and all I’m good for is having babies and giving him the son he wanted. That broke me. I feel like I should leave him because the way he spoke to Me this week was so cruel and painful that I cried 3 nights in a row. Now again I’ve cried I have a pounding headache and I’m hungry because I’m so pregnant and he seems to hate me. Sometimes I think he regrets our choice to have another baby and he said I could leave him he could care less but he would take me to court for the kids. I feel so trapped because I quit my job and he pays all my bills. If I leave I will have to move back in with my parents and I don’t really get along well with my mom she is a hot head who yells a lot and argues with my dad all the time and I don’t want to have my 10 year old there or myself while pregnant, but also I’m feeling miserable this week. It feels like he’s showing another side to me that scares me. It feels like he just hates me. He only hurts my feelings and makes me cry but in front of his family he has a mask. He is so nice and kind. He even treats his niece better than our daughter it feels like which I find so evil. I don’t know what to do. It feels like his family is more important to him than me and my daughter.