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We are pretty much living in opposite sides of the house. He won’t leave until he gets his payout from equity. How are you managing if you’re in this situation? I don’t speak to him. Only necessary communication through text. We have a 9 year old daughter together in the home who is witnessing it all.

Our families both know I am seeking divorce and supports me and understands why. There are some days it doesn’t feel real. 12 years married. But I constantly remind myself of the mistreatment to keep me focused when cognitive dissonance tries to take creep in.

Is this a form of hovering or just greed and trying to get emotional response because he knows I want him ou

It’s been a month and I’m getting impatient 😤 I keep getting she’s been busy in court and trying to catch up. I have already paid the first deposit.

Told my husband I wanted a divorce in May. He all of a sudden went to urgent care for a shoulder injury. Started doing physical therapy and now is scheduled for surgery. How common is this? I wouldn’t doubt if he intentionally did this!

I told my husband I wanted a divorce May 1st. After 12 years, enough is enough. They won’t ever change. The reality hit hard. I was devastated. The first draft is on the lawyers desk. He is claiming he’s looking for a place to stay but needs the payout from
The home equity so he is still in the house. It’s becoming easier. The presence of him no longer tugs at my heart. I have way too many bad memories to want to stay any longer. He meant me harm and in the worst way and thats enough to claim my life back!!

Please realize they will not ever change. They don’t love you. As my STBX has always said, he loves the way I love him. Never picked up on what that really meant until the scales came off. I’m looking forward to this new chapter of peace and freedom I hope you can too!

Well I finally reached out to his 1st wife and we were both mind blown. So many similarities it’s sickening. I really wish we would have connected sooner. There has been a trail of victims and sadly, his second wife passed from cancer. My health has taken a lot of hits over the last 12 years but Thank God, I’m still here!

It may or may not help you to try and reach out to his side of the family and past partners/spouses. I have a mix of emotions knowing what I now know. It has definitely gave me even more clarity and answered a lot of questions for us both. This is a terrible sadistic and cruel disease!!

Well I finally reached out to his 1st wife and we were both mind blown. So many similarities it’s sickening. I really wish we would have connected sooner. There has been a trail of victims and sadly, his second wife passed from cancer. My health has taken a lot of hits over the last 12 years but Thank God, I’m still here!

It may or may not help you to try and reach out to his side of the family and past partners/spouses. I have a mix of emotions knowing what I now know. It has definitely gave me even more clarity and answered a lot of questions for us both. This is a terrible sadistic and cruel disease!!