r/NarcAbuseAndDivorce

Hey guys, I've tried to leave 7 times.

I've even been DIVORCED for two years ... yet I live there.

I got an apartment and the plan was to get it set for a month and then talk to her ... that's tomorrow.

Can you talk to these people? Every time I talk to her she talks me out of it ... how do I know that's not a "me problem" and not a "her problem"?

Her dad just entered hospice, and I know that's true (and hurts), but I have to do this anyway, I have the apartment.

Advice on leaving? What worked? What didn't? No contact necessary??

We did mediation in Aug and we both signed for asset division, spousal support ( 2yrs) and childsupport. He paid spousal support and child support on 9/1. Was supposed to move his asset by 9/30 which he has not done it, then he has not paid Supousal support and childsupport on 10/1.

I need to move out of the house by end of Nov but without his constant support I cannot qualify for an apartment with only my full time income. I talked to my lawyer and she said she will take him to court if she doesn’t hear from him by Monday.

He has been playing this game since the mediation like pushing the limit to see what he can get away with.
And I have a feeling he would pay maybe end of the month or something so that he can still claim he paid.

I am so sick of this, if you signed and agreed to it fucking just follow that. I don’t want to deal with him but he makes everything difficult when it doesn’t have to be.

He needs to get some consequences otherwise he will keep doing this shit, I’m so mentally tired and I don’t want to live in the same house but I can’t get out if he doesn’t pay those.

Anyone experienced similar situation?