u/Superj9524

Hello everyone, and thanks for your help.

First of all I am the bf of the person involved, in the legal actions. And I am quite stressed about it as we have a kid.

So, it all happened last winter 2025, before Christmas. My gf got caught driving drunk, very drunk, but she opposed resistance to the officers, which didn’t even run a test.
So her license got taken away, in the 10 days waiting for the decision. She drove the car and got caught again, lucky for her the officer didn’t want to arrest her, because she was whit our son.

The second problem is that she got caught drunk driving in 2022, and for what I know was good the situation, as she got detention for a night.
So this means is the second time being caught in the 5 years time period of the Dutch law.

Third thing in 2023, I didn’t know, but she went in therapy for cocaine use in the past. Which was before us.

Now, she is not stopping drinking, almost 5/6 bottle a week, plus I found out she is smoking weed, and I also found twice a bag whit white powder residue in it.
She is not listening my advice, and keep acting as a child. I don’t know what to do, and I am very worried on what will happen in court in a month.

As she doesn’t tell me everything, and I think that also her lawyer don’t know all the story.

Can someone tell me, what can happen? What the CBR will do on her?
I need to get a lawyer and get ready to take the kid away?

Sorry but I am from Italy, and I don’t know much of the Dutch law.

Plus, I work abroad half of the year as in the maritime industry.

Thank you soo much for your help. 🙏

Hello everyone, and thanks for your help.

First of all I am the bf of the person involved, in the legal actions. And I am quite stressed about it as we have a kid.

So, it all happened last winter 2025, before Christmas. My gf got caught driving drunk, very drunk, but she opposed resistance to the officers, which didn’t even run a test.
So her license got taken away, in the 10 days waiting for the decision. She drove the car and got caught again, lucky for her the officer didn’t want to arrest her, because she was whit our son.

The second problem is that she got caught drunk driving in 2022, and for what I know was good the situation, as she got detention for a night.
So this means is the second time being caught in the 5 years time period of the Dutch law.

Third thing in 2023, I didn’t know, but she went in therapy for cocaine use in the past. Which was before us.

Now, she is not stopping drinking, almost 5/6 bottle a week, plus I found out she is smoking weed, and I also found twice a bag whit white powder residue in it (so I think is cocaine). Speaking with her is impossible, as she keep lying and denying
She is not listening my advice, and keep acting as a child. I don’t know what to do, and I am very worried on what will happen in court in a month.

As she doesn’t tell me everything, and I think that also her lawyer don’t know all the story.

Can someone tell me, what can happen? What the CBR will do on her?
I am thinking to get a lawyer, but I would like to know as much as I can.

Sorry but I am from Italy, and I don’t know much of the Dutch law.

Thank you soo much for your help. 🙏

Hello everyone, and thanks for your help.

First of all I am the bf of the person involved, in the legal actions. And I am quite stressed about it as we have a kid.

So, it all happened last winter 2025, before Christmas. My gf got caught driving drunk, very drunk, but she opposed resistance to the officers, which didn’t even run a test.
So her license got taken away, in the 10 days waiting for the decision. She drove the car and got caught again, lucky for her the officer didn’t want to arrest her, because she was whit our son.

The second problem is that she got caught drunk driving in 2022, and for what I know was good the situation, as she got detention for a night.
So this means is the second time being caught in the 5 years time period of the Dutch law.

Third thing in 2023, I didn’t know, but she went in therapy for cocaine use in the past. Which was before us.

Now, she is not stopping drinking, almost 5/6 bottle a week, plus I found out she is smoking weed, and I also found twice a bag whit white powder residue in it.
She is not listening my advice, and keep acting as a child. I don’t know what to do, and I am very worried on what will happen in court in a month.

As she doesn’t tell me everything, and I think that also her lawyer don’t know all the story.

Can someone tell me, what can happen? What the CBR will do on her?
Do you think I need to get a lawyer and get ready to take the kid away?

Sorry but I am from Italy, and I don’t know much of the Dutch law.

Thank you soo much for your help. 🙏