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I think I’ve finally surrendered to the fact that caffeine just isn’t for me.

I’ve been drinking black coffee for around 12 years. I’ve known for ages that I probably need to quit, but I’ve somehow stayed stuck in the same cycle.

I’m really sensitive to caffeine. I’ll have one, two, sometimes three black coffees in the morning, get that immediate buzz and maybe 20 minutes of decent focus, and then spend the rest of the day feeling absolutely horrendous.

Anxiety, poor sleep, intrusive thoughts, dizziness, feeling exhausted, wired but tired. Then the next morning I wake up and somehow think, “Right, coffee.”

I’ve tried quitting a few times before but always left myself some sort of loophole. “Maybe I can handle one.” “Maybe I’ll just have it occasionally.”

But this morning something clicked. I just can’t have it ,I don’t even want to switch to decaf. I think I want to completely break the habit and move on.

I’d really appreciate some motivation from anyone who has been through this.

If you were a long-term coffee/caffeine drinker and successfully quit, what helped you actually stick with it?

And did you genuinely start feeling better once you were through the withdrawal?

Hi all. Last night we went for a quick dinner at a local restaurant. When ordering, my wife got her small glass of wine, which she just sips all night (annoying 😄). I thought to myself, “If they have a 3.5% beer on tap, I’ll get one.” They didn’t, so I got a lime and soda instead. Life is fine.
I’m happy I’m on day 14, but I was a bit frustrated by that experience. It’s really tough working through those thoughts. My brain is constantly trying to win, saying things like, “Dude, you only drank light beers anyway. Your life was fine.”
But it’s never about that one beer. It never is.
If I could genuinely have one or two beers a week, I wouldn’t be here. I try to have a couple, end up having double, and then get annoyed with myself.
I guess I’m just stuck. I want to be like my wife, who literally has one or two glasses of wine a week and can take it or leave it. At the same time, I’m grateful I’m not someone who feels they have to drink every day.
I’m just stuck in this weird beer purgatory.

Hi everyone,
Im a property investor, and I’ve been building a portfolio management app for UK landlords in my spare time.
The goal isn’t to replace accounting software or property management systems. It’s to give investors a modern, simple way to keep track of their portfolio, properties, key numbers and documents in one place.
I’m looking for around 20–30 landlords or property investors who’d be willing to try the beta and give honest feedback on what’s useful, what’s missing and what you’d change.
There’s no cost and I’m not trying to sell anything. I just want to build something that genuinely solves problems for investors.
If you’d be interested in testing it, drop a comment or send me a DM and I’ll send you the TestFlight link.
Thanks!

It’s iOS only at the moment

Hi everyone , not spam this is just a free app I built that had things that seem to help me

sober streak
Urge surfing
Journal etc

If any of those tools are useful please do download and share any suggestions or feedback

Thanks

https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/clear-year/id6787916644

Hi , another day 10 feeling good overall , however that voice has started creeping back in, I am on a cruise holiday late August and I caught myself trying to convince myself that “hey, if you’re fifty days off by then enjoy your life it’s all inclusive have some drinks “ and that worry’s because this is how it normally goes for me.

What is even more bizarre is I had two nights this weekend with friends where both nights the booze was flowing and I was happy on the zero beers.

Any thoughts welcome
Thanks

My first post yesterday was so thoughtfully supported I wanted to just unpack my thoughts I've had over the years I why my many 30 , 41, 65, 100 days have never stuck. There are surely other reasons but one of my thoughts is this.

I buy into Joe Dispensa idea of firing and rewiring your brain, I think that happens for me and most people and I assume it happens anytime from day 1 to day 365 where eventually you brain doesnt ask for or expect the friday afternoon drinks etc.

I then thought if that is true what tools am I using that isnt working. this has been a mix of
- Pure motivation - blogs, podcasts, streaks etc
- Urge Surfing
- Play the tape forward
- being in a community like this

I've realised i have relied mainly on the first one, but never really the others, I was wondering what tools any of you used to get through that period I call the "messy middle"

Thank you

I’m 41 and have been drinking for around 20 years. I’d describe myself as a classic grey-area drinker rather than someone who hit a dramatic rock bottom.
My pattern has been pretty consistent for years. I’ll drink moderately for a while, then it gradually creeps up into a level that doesn’t sit right with me. I take a break for 30, 40 or 60 days, feel great, convince myself I’ve got it under control, then eventually end up back in the same cycle.
What makes it confusing is that, aside from alcohol, I’m very healthy. I don’t smoke, I’m in good shape, exercise regularly, eat well, sleep well, and have a good career and family life. For a long time that made it easy to tell myself alcohol wasn’t really a problem.
The biggest challenge over the last year hasn’t been physical withdrawal or even the drinking itself. It’s been the mental battle. The constant questioning, bargaining, moderating, stopping, restarting, and trying to figure out what role alcohol should have in my life. Sometimes it feels like I spend more energy thinking about drinking than actually drinking.
Deep down, I genuinely believe I’d have a happier and more fulfilling life without alcohol. The thing I struggle with most is that almost everyone around me thinks the way I drink is completely normal, and some would probably even say it’s healthy because I don’t drink every day or let it affect my work or family. That disconnect makes it really hard to trust my own instincts sometimes.
Has anyone else had a similar experience as a long-term grey-area drinker? What helped you finally break the cycle and stop second-guessing yourself?