u/SurgTech9911

I don't want to get into it, but I just feel overwhelmed by the amount of people who continually text me that I need to hire someone and I need to do this and that I'm doing everyhting wrong with my moms care. The truth is, I don't want to hire a caregiver, I am so unbelievably overwhelmed that opening that can of worms would make my current situation much worse. I feel like I have to defend myself every time and I'm not like forcing any of my family members to help me either. I just have a lot of personal reasons to not hire a caregiver and I accept the consequences that come with that. Can anyone relate? I feel lowkey crazy.

For context i've worked with caregivers for years at my old job and also used to be one. I understand completely the ins and outs of caregiving, agency and private alike. I am making an informed decision based on my experience yet everyone whos never even met a caregiver is acting like they know better. I'm jut venting and frustrated tbh.

*spoilers for both the original and reborn* I'm in my feels so I might be getting some details wrong.

Grew up on this show and rewatched it in college, decided to do a binge in honor of Hayden and actually consume it from an adult perspective for once and the finality of it is making me feel a sense of grief, probably compounded by the fact that I still feel really sad about Hayden.

I did really love the show probably until season 4 bc I knew it was the end, and I could tell this season was not a "finale" at all. The show is literally just unfinished, and it ends in a heartbreaking way. We see Noah and Claire basically having tension the entire show, there was never any peace, and it just ends in a severed relationship. I guess thats "realistic" but still upsetting as the next time we "see" them together its Noah with her dead body like 5 years later. It makes ZERO sense that Tim didn't ask Hayden back for reborn when the show was kind of about her?? Like he couldnt ask her to do a cameo?? Her response to not being asked back made it sound like she would've 100% been down for a cameo and i'm sure that would've made the shows response a little better.

I feel like its an unpopular opinion but imo season 3 and 4 needed to almost be longer in a way?? There were so many mini arcs that went too quickly (especially Sylar and Peter being stuck in his mind for years, I feel like that at least deserved a 2 episode arc to develop Sylars changes and ultimately why he wants to be in a hero in the end). I feel like some of the other arcs were also too drawn out. I kind of feel it was cringy to go back and add a blonde female interest for Noah in season 4 too, but I see why he needed a "partner" in this case.

I wished the writers strike never happened (though I 100% understand why it NEEDED to happen and continually still does in the industry) so we got a real season 2. Obviously we all wish we got a season 5. I wish Bryan Fuller was attached to Heroes Reborn. I wish they atleast asked Hayden and Milo back for reborn. Hell I even wish that Tim's Heroes: Eclipse series gets greenlit just because I love the way these stories are told and how these powers are manifested. I am super into the MCU and the DCEU but Heroes is just really something special and I'm just sad I've finished it.

trigger warning: a very miserable caregiver rant

context: mom is in her early 60s with terminal lung cancer, suffered a fall last month so she's in a snf for rehab and then home hospice care after. i'm an only child in my 20s, been taking care of her full time since october when her physical abilities took a major crash. quit my full time job as an RN, drove 4 days across the country. taking care of her dog who is literally insane (very active/needy etc), and my cats, as well as being her 24/7 caregiver. She has 6 siblings but only one aunt who actually comes to help us out. My dad lives overseas and comes to visit like 2-3x a year which i absolutely hate but he doesnt give a crap. The only silver lining is I am at home alone but for some reason It's even more tiring because her dog is soo anxious and needy.

Rant- i hate the snf staff - they gave her a uti after inserting a straight cath in her bladder for over 8 hours without a foley bag or any sort of sterile/closed system. she got a uti. had to go to the hospital for complications. staff have literally gotten in my face before because i called him out for doing something borderline illegal. whatever, i've worked in snfs before, i know no one there is paid enough to care.

i hate my dad at this point - he's constantly messaging me about what more can be done, he wants her to "stay alive until AI invents life saving treatments", literally stfu dad. She made me her POA and signed a DNR without his knowledge. Constantly projecting his guilt onto me, constantly blowing up my phone and i am just not even answering at this point. every time he visits he is insane and yells at me.

i hate almost all of her siblings - they like to send me 10s of performative messages and no follow through. i asked for someone, ANYONE, to help out 2 months in advance for one single day so i can go to the ren fair with my friends and suddenly everyone has plans. okay whatever, i'm noot forcing anyone to help me. Yet Everyone wants to visit, my mom is too polite to say no, but they drain her energy so much and she is in such a bad mood afterwards. her closest sister is what my mom describes as someone with narcissistic personality disorder, is sooo annoying i might just block her.

At this point i've become a miserable tired person, I don't want people to contact me ever unless it's my 4 best friends or my mom. We text every day. but i cannot stand to speak to anyone else.

Rant over. I'm just sick and tired, no one really cares to help me. Once she's gone i'll truly have no one but my friends and my shitty dad.