u/Suspicious-Ad9495

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I'm 24 (turning 25 this year), NBSB, and I live in Manila while working in Makati. Between work and commuting, I don't naturally meet a lot of new people, so I tried dating apps (which I've since quit) and even Reddit.

What I've noticed is that most conversations never really go anywhere. We exchange a few messages, maybe talk for a few days, then someone disappears or loses interest. After a while, constantly starting from scratch becomes more tiring than exciting.

It made me realize that maybe what I'm looking for is a little different.

I'm not expecting to fall head over heels before entering a relationship. I'd rather meet someone who's also dating with intention. Someone who's open to getting to know each other, exchanging photos early (because physical attraction is important to me too), and if we both feel there's potential, giving the relationship a real chance instead of endlessly staying in the "talking stage."

I don't expect instant love. I want love to grow through consistency, shared experiences, quality time, and choosing each other every day.

As for the kind of person I'm hoping to meet:

- Someone looking for a long-term relationship, not just someone to pass the time.

- Someone who communicates openly.

- Someone who's kind, emotionally mature, and patient.

- Someone who naturally likes taking the lead sometimes because I'm hilariously indecisive.

- Someone who's okay with a quiet introvert who eventually won't stop talking once she's comfortable.

- Bonus points if you're into coffee dates, anime, random weekend adventures, or simply enjoying each other's company.

Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic, but I'd love to find a relationship that lasts, not just for months, but hopefully for life.

Does anyone else feel this way, or am I romanticizing the idea of love growing after commitment?