u/Suspicious-Win-7218

Anyone working in the northeast specifically NY/NJ/CT or even RI, could you share your salary and work expectations? Nocturnist even better. Thanks!

I’m not a stay at home mom but chose an easier medical specialty because I was fearful of not being able to be around for my kids. I’ve been miserable and feel worthless and like I don’t deserve to enjoy my kids cause I should be working harder or achieving more. I’m religious but for some reason have had a hard time seeking god in this and believing all he says about his children. This has been going on over a year already. I desperately need to get it together.

I’m a resident at the hospital where all of the MD/DOs have a black badge that says doctor on it behind their name tag badge so that the bottom peaks through. I saw this girl in the hallway who had one and and I looked up to see that her degrees were NP. So this lady literally had to steal or request a doctor badge and put it behind her NP nametag…..

Long islander here who left for the south for college about 15 years ago, came back to LI/NYC for 5 years then left again for medical school in 2021. My husband is from New England. I unfortunately didn’t get a top choice in residency match and am still in the south. I have 2 young ones now and most of my family is on Long Island and I’m so so nostalgic for them to grow up there. There’s just so few safe tight knit seaside towns in the US like where I grew up. I didn’t appreciate growing up there but it’s changed a lot and my kids will have more opportunities to leave/see more of the world than I did growing up there. We technically can afford to live a very comfortable life on Long Island but we save over 100k a year between no state taxes and what the pay difference will be when I get my attending job in 2 years living down here. We of course would also get a lot less house etc. up there than what we currently have. But god I’m just longing to pop over at a friends house or my sisters house for coffee or go to the Hamptons with my cousins. But my husband really doesn’t want to live up there. Womp :( After residency is over our compromise was maybe to summer up there half the time in NY half near my husbands family. Please give me pros/cons 🥺

32 y/o non trad PGY1 who applied obgyn and soaped into IM. I have 2 kiddos under 2 and have been miserable all year. My marriage is falling apart, I could care less about the patients I’m treating, feel like I’m not helping anyone just asking about their pain and bowel movements, no fellowships are sticking out to me, I’m so far from my family whom I miss dearly, I miss surgery and the OR, and I just feel like why’d I go through all the trouble of going to a good med school and doing research and a masters etc to just not be happy at the end. I would have one year left of IM by the time I’d start another specialty if I reapplied and Not even sure what I could do in my off year if I finish the year and quit. Surgical assist? Can I work in an urgent care without a board cert? And that would also look bad on a reapp but I’m so exhausted and missing time with my kids for no reason!!!! I don’t mind working hard if I feel proud of myself and excited for the future. But I’m honestly suicidal over this. Sorry just had a shit day in clinic and need to vent/need some advice.