u/SwanOk5053

i hope this doesnt break any rules. pls remove if it does.

i adopted a cat 5 months ago. begged for a cat. ive wanted a cat all my life. i had guinea pigs growing up and they were such wonderful pets. i was spoilt rotten by how darling my piggies were. i adopted this cat w my partner. they were extremely skeptical but i somehow managed to convince them.

the cat came home and we had countless arguments. he was such a genuinely difficult cat who kept biting me. so not affectionate. he hates being held. i cant even go to the kitchen to grab a glass of water without him clinging onto my ankles and chomping it. this also made me realize i had a mild allergy to cat saliva.

i love cats. i genuinely do. but i dont think i can stand owning one. the constant screaming, fur all over, not being able to access all rooms freely, fear of opening and closing the door because hes obsessed with running out, unprovoked bites and scratches and whatnot.

i feel sad but i feel relief more. i feel bad for convincing my partner. they work fulltime and i dont work. i did most of the research and taking care of the cats needs and my partner would help me whenever they could.

i feel like shit for not knowing what i was getting into. we finally got in touch with the shelter and he will be sent to a foster home and eventually rehomed

we had so many arguments and compromises i refused to rehome him but now i had no choice.

i feel so much guilt. weve fostered a kitten before and I did a plethora of research . ik cats are all different but ive never felt such hostility from a cat. it broke my heart i used to cry every day. i did everything to give him space so he will feel comfortable but the attacks never stop. i know i shouldnt feel bad about putting my and my partners peace first but it sucks that me who used to love cats so much now can never be able to own one. the mild excitement of him leaving my house makes me feel like a monster. like i cannot wait to have freedom and stay out overnight without worrying about whether he ate or broke something at home. i feel like a failure

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before you guys ask me - hes been taken to the vet, no signs of any pain and illness. hes neutered and vaccinated, he turnd 2 this june. he used to be an indoor + outdoor cat but now hes fully indoors and likes to watch out the window

hi, i adopted a cat thats known for being skittish and hate humans. he doesnt cuddle or like being touched often and interact with humans and other cats. its been 3 months 10 days since i got him and he keeps attacking me. he will want to be pet for 1 second and the next hes clasping my arm and digging his teeth into me. this also made me find out im mildly allergic to cat saliva but thats irrelevant. yes i check his tail, whiskers and ears for signs of irritation and stop engaging with him the moment they twitch or move in a direction that means being annoyed. like i said, ill keep watching for these signs and ill be petting him. and he bites me out of nowhere. blood being drawn is very rare and even if it happens its very tiny so its not dangerous. but it hurts and everytime i tell a cat lover this happens they only blame me for not giving a clean environment. i am home for most of the time, hes not left alone often, his litterbox gets cleaned 1 or 2 times, hes a solo cat as he prefers it, i play with him whenever he wants, he has ample space and multiple safe spots in the house to sleep, sightsee etc, my home is well lit so theres alot of sunlight for him to bask, my house does not smell strongly of any food, we do not use any air freshners to alter the smell inside the house, we don't get visitors in our house often so theres no new people around to bother him. its just me, my partner and our cat. the biting hurts me so much and i genuinely dont know how im going keep this up for another 10+ more years. my mental health is slipping. i get bitten and attacked like 30+ times a day and i am exhausted and in pain and the parts his teeth scratches becomes swollen and i am so annoyed of this situation. what can i do

before you guys ask me - hes been taken to the vet, no signs of any pain and illness. hes neutered and vaccinated, he turnd 2 this june. he used to be an indoor + outdoor cat but now hes fully indoors and likes to watch out the window

hi, i adopted a cat thats known for being skittish and hate humans. he doesnt cuddle or like being touched often and interact with humans and other cats. its been 3 months 10 days since i got him and he keeps attacking me. he will want to be pet for 1 second and the next hes clasping my arm and digging his teeth into me. this also made me find out im mildly allergic to cat saliva but thats irrelevant. yes i check his tail, whiskers and ears for signs of irritation and stop engaging with him the moment they twitch or move in a direction that means being annoyed. like i said, ill keep watching for these signs and ill be petting him. and he bites me out of nowhere. blood being drawn is very rare and even if it happens its very tiny so its not dangerous. but it hurts and everytime i tell a cat lover this happens they only blame me for not giving a clean environment. i am home for most of the time, hes not left alone often, his litterbox gets cleaned 1 or 2 times, hes a solo cat as he prefers it, i play with him whenever he wants, he has ample space and multiple safe spots in the house to sleep, sightsee etc, my home is well lit so theres alot of sunlight for him to bask, my house does not smell strongly of any food, we do not use any air freshners to alter the smell inside the house, we don't get visitors in our house often so theres no new people around to bother him. its just me, my partner and our cat. the biting hurts me so much and i genuinely dont know how im going keep this up for another 10+ more years. my mental health is slipping. i get bitten and attacked like 30+ times a day and i am exhausted and in pain and the parts his teeth scratches becomes swollen and i am so annoyed of this situation. what can i do