Thinking about divorce but have a 5 year old
I’ve (35f) been thinking about divorce for about a year. We have a 5 year old and he’s a great dad and a good person. I have love for him but he’s not my soulmate.
Last year we went to therapy. I was/am frustrated that I have grown as a person getting sober, meeting new people, trying new hobbies and even thriving at work. He hasn’t changed. He still has the same high school and college friends, plays video games, doesn’t take care of his body, and complains constantly about work. Nothing has changed. When I bring it up in and out of therapy there’s still no change.
But the thing is that he isn’t a bad person. He doesn’t kill bugs, he’s a great dad, people think he’s nice.
I’m not miserable I just don’t feel like he’s my soulmate and with a 5 year old it’s hard to feel like maybe I’m being selfish. Or maybe I wait until our 5 year old is 18. I don’t know. It’s almost like it would be easier if he was a bad person. But he hasn’t done anything wrong, he’s just not growing as a person.