u/Sweaty_Dust2627

I know the title makes me seem mean and I do really feel like an asshole even having to make this post but I need some advice.

6 months ago I got a second cat since i’m out of the house quite often with work and school. Both cats are 5 and fixed both ladies. I’ve already had full vet work ups so I know this is a behavioral thing.

The issue is my new cat Mimi cannot be alone. She only tolerates my new cat-if they’re not fighting they just ignore each other but they don’t fight that often, maybe 4 times since Mimi came home. Mimi needs to be touching me 24/7 or else she cries. We have feilway and she’s on prozac but she hates being without me and I feel so bad for complaining but it’s honestly too much. I can’t read or do work on my computer at home anymore because she lies on my lap and will beg for affectionate, i’m happy to give it to her but sometimes I genuinely need a second to myself or I just need to get work done. If i’m making food she’ll jump on the counter and get up all up in it and at nighttime she just cries outside my door…it’s been 6 months and I haven’t gave in and she still does it. I thought having two cats would fix this but I can’t sleep with either of them in the room with me since my old cat is really hyper and night and will keep me up, and Mimi needs to be held and pet..which I can’t do when trying to sleep lol.

I give her all the affectionate I can and they have plenty of enrichment, like toys, trees and vertical space but it’s just enough for her it’s to the point where i’m having to think about finding her a new home :( I just feel horribly. She has hearing blankets and stuffed toys to try to help with the separation anxiety because she has begun peeing at night or when i’m away for too long (vet visits have already happened she is medically fine) I just don’t know what to do, I love her and just want her to be happy but I can’t just hold her and pet her all day.

Photo of them at the vet, I think you can tell which one is Mimi lol. She really is such a sweet girl but I going crazy. I almost think she needs to be with a retired couple who is home all day. She was found at a hoarders house so I believe she has some trauma which makes me feel worse.

Hi guys. Thank you for all your support on my last post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/CATHELP/s/lffk3Zp1LN\](https://www.reddit.com/r/CATHELP/s/lffk3Zp1LN)

it really meant a lot to me. After reading your comments I decided to go ahead and attempt the surgery, he is still fighting so hard and I’d hate to give up on him when I know he’s trying so hard to sick around with me. He was making great strides in his mobility and was beginning to sit up ( picture) and use his front paws again, he was even making biscuits this morning before I took him to the vet, which really cemented my belief that this is the right decision.

The surgery went okay. He had some hypertension under anesthesia and unfortunately nearly became hypoxic. They were able to complete the surgery but he is being kept in an oxygen cage until his blood oxygen rises. I was able to visit him after and the vets are concerned that there is fluid in his lungs that might need to be drained. Please keep my boy in your thoughts and prayers. He hasn’t really had time to react to his back legs being gone yet :(

My cat Toby is 2 years and suffered from saddle thrombus (or FATE) five months ago. He lost use of his back legs slowly and quickly began fully paralyzed from the neck down by the time we arrived at the vet. They gave him prednisolone, clopidogrel and vitamin supplements, after 3 weeks at the vet we were able to take him home and began laser and water therapy. He gained back a bit of mobility but his back legs still necrosized and we had to go back to the vet. Our first vet suggested euthanasia but we got a second opinion and they agreed to do a double amputation on his back legs. Here are my concerns

anesthesia: Both vets brought up the possibly of him not surviving the surgery and we don’t know the underlying cause of his FATE, so we aren’t sure what his reaction would be.
The care demands: Toby already needs around the clock care and with all medical bills I have racked up for this I really can’t afford to take PTO from work. Right now when I don’t work from home I hire a cat sitter from his rescue to help him with he needs like getting him to use the bathroom, keeping him entertained since he is still learning how to walk again etc…and I honestly don’t think I can afford this without going into debt which concerns me.

However, he still eats when fed and is alert. He has better mobility in his front legs anyway and hasn’t been able to move his back legs since his episode so i’m hopeful that it wouldn’t be too drastic on his quality of life. Thanks for reading id appreciate any info from people with FATE survivors or bipedal cats.

I’m 21, Toby is 2 and fixed we can afford vet care but i would need to take out loans for the surgery and recovery. Around 8k is the estimate

edit: a wheelchair would not be an option because his front legs still don’t have full mobility, he can move his front paws but not his upper arms and he can’t support weight on them.

Hi this is CC (Cumulus Cloud) I adopted her almost 3 months ago and she keeps attacking me.

I will be playing with her-and I don’t use my hands to play with her, I use wand toys mainly- and she’ll randomly jump and start going at it on my arm. I don’t pet her as the first time I tried she attacked me :( I don’t really approach her but sometimes she’ll walk up to me and just be angry for no reason. When she went to her first vet appointment she was healthy and fine and she is spayed.

I took her again to get her nails clipped since obviously I can’t do it myself and to get claw caps put on, but they weren’t able to do so she still has her nails.

I don’t know what to do she’s only getting worse and I try to just be calm around her but i’m getting scared of her. I can still play with her for a few minutes and she has independent toys but all our interactions end with her scratching or biting me and I don’t know what i’m doing wrong. I don’t approach her on my own at all I just wait till she comes to be me. Sometimes she’ll literally walk out from where she is to walk by me and hiss???

I try to get her to like me with treats but she’ll grab them and run off and she won’t even eat around me. I’d say she’s scared of me but she’s the one approaching me 99% of the time. I’ve tried churus but she won’t eat them.

How do I get her to stop attacking me? I don’t think I can keep her if this issues persists. She is spayed and I have a feilway. She’s an adult cat and was in the shelter for about a year before I adopted her they said she is shy but nothing about being aggressive and that she warms up to people but she hasn’t yet. I really don’t know how much longer I can deal with this, it just sucks

Hi this is CC (Cumulus Cloud) I adopted her almost 3 months ago and she keeps attacking me.

I will be playing with her-and I don’t use my hands to play with her, I use wand toys mainly- and she’ll randomly jump and start going at it on my arm. I don’t pet her as the first time I tried she attacked me :( I don’t really approach her but sometimes she’ll walk up to me and just be angry for no reason. When she went to her first vet appointment she was healthy and fine and she is spayed.

I took her again to get her nails clipped since obviously I can’t do it myself and to get claw caps put on, but they weren’t able to do so she still has her nails.

I don’t know what to do she’s only getting worse and I try to just be calm around her but i’m getting scared of her. I can still play with her for a few minutes and she has independent toys but all our interactions end with her scratching or biting me and I don’t know what i’m doing wrong.

I try to get her to like me with treats but she’ll grab them and run off and she won’t even eat around me. I’d say she’s scared of me but she’s the one approaching me 99% of the time. I’ve tried churus but she won’t eat them.

How do I get her to stop attacking me? I don’t think I can keep her if this issues persists.

Hi. I really don’t know what to do . I have never considered giving my cat away ever, but after a vet check up, X-ray, urinalysis and bloodwork that cost almost 5K i can’t think of any solution but rehoming. But my cat just won’t use the litter box. He will only pee on my bedsheets…if they are on my bed. I’ve used open litter boxes, closed liter boxes, both at the same time. 3 litter boxes at at once. Over the past year i’ve tried pine, paper, corn, wheat, tofu, clumping, cat attract, literally everything. He pees on only my bed and my clothes it’s been a year and i’m going to be moving in my my two friends for my sophomore year. My one friends has a normal cat with no issues bonus I can’t sort it by then I will have to look for a new home has anyone dealt with this? Fixed cat no other health issues sorry for typos i did not spell check.