u/SweetCheetah8888

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Discussion and reflection

Hi, I want to share something that happened to me with a DBT psychologist two years ago. I have major depression and emotional dysregulation, and I was referred to a DBT psychologist because I can't do CBT. It turns out that when I went to my appointment with the new psychologist, I didn't feel 100% comfortable. She seemed very stiff and rigid, like a recent graduate. I wasn't convinced, not only because of that but also for other reasons (I felt judged by her gaze, and she told me to take advantage of the antidepressants to gain weight. I had previously told her that I'd lost about 4 kg due to depression, and since I'm thin, it's noticeable in my face and legs, which I don't like that much, but oh well, it's something that can be regained simply by eating and working out at the gym—the only way an ectomorph can gain weight: gym and food). The point is, she seemed a bit out of place, and I still wasn't convinced.

About a month after starting therapy with her (I didn't connect with her at all), I sent her a message six days in advance (I gave six days' notice so I wouldn't have to pay anything and so she could make arrangements) respectfully telling her I was stopping treatment. The thing is, she ignored me for a week until she finally replied on the day we were supposed to have our session at 5 pm. She bombarded me with calls saying, "I thought we were going to have a closing session." To which I replied, "But I gave six days' notice and you ignored me. It wasn't my responsibility to come because I gave notice." And she kept insisting. I ended up blocking her for trying to blackmail me, since she never gave any notice, she simply ignored me for a week and didn't even apologize.

English is not my first language, sorry. I use the Google Translate.

Hola, quiero contar algo que me pasó con una psicóloga dbt hace dos años atrás, resulta que tengo depresión mayor y desrregulación emocional, me derivaron a una psicóloga dbt porque tcc no puedo hacer. Resulta que cuando voy a la consulta con la psi nueva, no me sentía 100% cómoda, muy acartonada, rígida, recién recibida al parecer, como yo no me sentía convencida no solo por eso sino por otras cosas más (me sentía juzgada con la mirada, o me dijo que aproveche las antidepresivas para aumentar de peso, yo previamente le dije que por la depresión bajé unos 4kg y al ser delgada se me nota en la cara y piernas y no me gusta taaaaanto pero bueno, es algo que el peso se recupera simplemente comiendo y entrenando en gym, la única manera que tiene un ectomorfo de aumentar peso:gym y comida) cuesión es que me pareció medio desubicada y seguía sin cerrarme.

Al mes aprox de haber hecho algo de terapia con ella (no conecte nada) le envie un mensaje con seis dias de anticipación (avise seis días antes para no tener que pagar nada y para que ella se pueda organizar) diciendole de manera respetuosa que dejaba el tratamiento, cuestión es que ella me clava el visto por una semana hasta que me responde el día en el que solíamos hacer sesión a las 5 de la tarde, me bombardeo de llamados diciendome "yo pense que ibamos a tener una sesion de cierre" .-. a lo cual respondi "pero yo avise seis dias antes y me clavaste el visto, a mi no me correspondia ir poque avise" y ella insistía. La terminé bloqueando por intentar chantajearme, ya que ella en ningun momento aviso nada, simplemente me ignoro por una semana y ni se disculpo.