AITA for not choosing between two friends for my wedding?
I (35F) just had my first child — a complete surprise baby. My wedding is planned for July, but my best friend since kindergarten, who is also supposed to be one of my bridesmaids, just told me she doesn’t want to come if I invite my other close friend/bridesmaid.
They had a falling out a few months ago and haven’t spoken since.
But it’s my wedding, and I want them both there. As bridesmaids, they would probably have to communicate at least a little for organizing the bachelorette party, but on the actual wedding day there will be around 50 guests, the seating plan is already done, and they won’t even be sitting next to each other.
My friend is also going through a difficult time with her boyfriend right now, and I wonder if maybe she’s a bit jealous that my friend and I ended up having a baby and getting married around the same time. To avoid hurting her feelings, I admittedly pulled away a little myself — plus I had a newborn, some health issues, and we don’t live close to each other.
On her side, she came to see the baby once shortly after the birth, but since then I haven’t heard much from her.
Anyway, that’s the context. And now she suddenly tells me, completely out of nowhere: “I’m not coming to your wedding if you invite her. It’s too hard for me.”
It’s my wedding. AITA for wanting both of my oldest friends there and refusing to make concessions? For one evening, shouldn’t she be able to make an effort?