u/SwimmingFace7726

Asalamaulaikum sisters! I hope you’re all doing well Insha Allah. I wanted to ask for those of you with adhd how do you manage your Salah? I’m struggling so badly and sometimes even end up missing them due to mental and physical exhaustion. I have started doing tayamum sometimes instead of wudhu because that makes it easier. But I’d really appreciate any tips. Also please be kind and non judgmental! ADHD is literally a mental disability and not even medication can fix this.

Some of this is because of past trauma but I’m shy, can be quiet and reserved and have social anxiety. But I know that I’m definitely not an introvert because I hate being alone and don’t mind large groups as long as I’m comfortable with them. I also get energised after socialising, or even if I sit and listen to people. I can definitely be loud and boisterous once I’m comfortable but initially I’ll be more quiet. Does anyone else relate to not being a typical extrovert? And do people often mistake you for being an introvert? I’d be so rich if I had a pound for every time someone has mistaken me for an introvert.

I’ve got no friends left and I’m 32 years old. It’s absolutely crippling…everyone is either married or married with kids. I don’t have anything in common with them anymore so the friendships have drifted away. The only friend I do have who is not married is super busy with her job and other commitments. I’m extremely lonely and depressed. I know I need an active social life, especially after recently discovering that I’m more extroverted. I’m not extremely loud, crazy or spontaneous but I enjoy company and a lot of it. I get energised around people. This loneliness is making me so depressed, and I’ve already been crying to Allah SWT to make it easier for me. I do turn to Allah SWT and I feel better and then I feel lonely again. Is there anyone else in a similar situation?