What the hell happened?
Hi,
My partner has a severe drinking problem. He believes since he’s a bigger guy, he can drink more and will over consume without fail to the point of uncontrollable body responses and passing out. We’ve been together for about 2 years and to say the least, it’s been so hard. It started magical, I mean magical. He swept me off my feet and threw me head over heels in love. Constant gifts, being together, kissing at red lights etc etc etc it felt magical to me. Regardless, about 7 months in he got in a bad car accident. He ended up tearing part of his shoulder(I’d go into detail if I could remember exactly) and causing a long year of healing. In that time, he picked up drinking and began to hide how much he was drinking and how often. And from there everything got worse. Drinking and driving, more lying and deceiving, more mind games more gaslighting. To about six months ago when he “finally” came clean and told me “everything” and said we needed a break. After that week we decided we were going to work on things, he started going to AA and therapy and things felt okay. Till roughly a month in and he dropped everything claiming “it wasn’t that bad”. I am struggling so hard with this. Every day we talk I feel like I am speaking to a man that hates me. Beginning of the month we got in a really large fight over all of this and how I am not feeling confident in our relationship due to how he will continuously choose alcohol over me. And after promising he loved me up down and to the south, here I now sit alone bc he is choosing the alcohol over me again.