Hello everyone,
I have some family issues that have been happen my entire 22 years of life and I want to know if I've just overreacted every time or if it's a real problem because I don't know what to do anymore and I am exhausted of it.
The people in this story are me F (22), GM (68) GF (68) and the rest are just my family members.
I grew up being raised by my grandparents but my mother was a very active part of my life the entire time. When she had me she was young and thought it would be best for me to grow up in a stable environment and my grandparents could offer that. She was there constantly and always made sure I knew how much she loved me. My father wasn't as active and the way I described him was a background character in my life if that makes sense to anyone.
Anyways, when I was 18 my GF died and it crushed me and I am still trying to come to terms with him being gone completely after all those years. And shortly after he died my GM told me that I didn't lose anyone, she lost her husband and all these horrible things because I had a breakdown over his passing. She didn't speak to me for about a week and I didn't understand what I did but my family was on her side.
And over the years she's ben rude and mean with little comments that upset me but if I say anything to her suddenly I am this awful person who has always been cruel and impossible to love. She's done that my entire life but the breaking point came about a few days ago involving my car.
I recently got a new car after my other car was ruined and it's about ten years newer than my old car and so when she asked if she could use my car to go grab something all I did was ask if she wanted me to show her the buttons so she didn't press something and think she ruined my car...she didn't even know my car was running the first time she drove it and had to get me to make sure it was on.
So I wanted to make sure she knew the buttons for the heat and all that because I had to show her in my old car too and she lost her mind on me. She started accusing me of calling her stupid and being this awful person and saying I didn't show my step father anything...he's the one who showed me the buttons in my car because I was used to my old car so I didn't think I needed to.
I tried to tell her I wasn't trying to do that and apologize but she wouldn't let it go and then for the last few days she's treated me like I am this cruel monster who treated her horribly. My mom has tried to talk to her and she won't listen to anyone...I don't know what to do anymore. Am I overreacting for being upset with this? Or was I mean to her?
I need some advice please.