u/Tantica_

What if a commander was divorced before the takeover, would he suffer any consequences like a divorced woman? Or he would be immediately married to a "suitable" match so goes on par with Gilead rules?

After four years of therapy, I realized it doesn't help me anymore. In the beginning, it felt helpful in some ways, but now... we are just going circles, using the same phrase "Everything is going to be okay", "You've been through worse, I'm sure you'll manage to survive this one, too".

She started to get very dismissive whenever I open about feeling different and not suited with the world around me "Not everyone has to be friends with everyone", "Oh, you are like this because of your mother...".

I mentioned once the possibility of having ADHD. She dismissed it outright — her reasoning was that I couldn't have it because I didn't fail medical school, and I'm not hyperactive at all during our discussions.

Same with autism - I couldn't have autism cause I'm not bothered by the tiniest sound. (Tho in different contexts, I could be extremely sensitive to some sounds).

When talking about my self-harm, she just said I should channel my energy to hit a pillow.

This, along with ridiculing me for not wanting a relanshionship ("Do you want to end up alone like your mother?") made me extremely uncomfortable with her, to the point of not being able to express my emotions clearly.

Fast forward, after an ugly breakdown, I pursued an ADHD and autism self-assessment (went to a psychiatrist). I scored 152 on the RAADS-R, which is a screening tool for autism.

I've decided to leave her and find a psychologist who specializes in neurodivergence and can actually pursue an official diagnosis. My question is: should I tell her why I'm leaving, or just end things without getting into it?

Hello! Long story short, all my life, I felt something was wrong with me. For some time, I started to ask myself if I may be neurodivergent. I tried to open up to my psychologist about this, but I was immediately shut down. I was told I can't have ADHD because I didn't fail in medical school, and I've had decent grades so far (even though I always feel behind others at studying and my grades are significantly lower, despite the effort I've put in, not to mention I dread to study at a subject that I really lack interest of and during studying I tend to daydream a lot).

I was told I can not have autism by my psychologist because I am not deranged by every sound (even though some sounds, like laughing from other people, can be quite annoying to me).

Anyway, I went to a psychiatrist when I was at a low point during the end of the semester. I went there cause I needed answers. I felt something was wrong with me, and psychotherapy didn't help me anymore.

So, I did the tests. First, DIVA-5. Then the CAARS-S:SV and RAADS-R.

Now, for the DIVA-5, I got:

\- for the attention deficit a 1/9 in childhood and 5/9 in adult life

\- for hiperactivity/Impulsivity 3/9 in childhood and 6/9 in adulthood

Now, the lower score in childhood may be because of my strict childhood, with parents that monitored every step.

But at the RAADS-R, I got a definitely higher score, and it seemed more evident that I may be on the spectrum. Now, I am not sure if I can say that I am autistic just because of these tests, or I need to do more research and testing in order to get an official diagnosis.

Truth is, finding out that I may be high functioning autistic felt a bit disturbing but also relieving because this may answer to my never ending questions "Why am I so weird, why I always feel out of place, why it's always so hard to read people, why I always feel behind other people, why I always feel tired after socialization, why am I so sensitive to criticism and failure, why I suck with attention especially now when I am an adult...why...and why..."

My question is, should I ask my psychiatrist to do other tests, like the CAT-Q?

Hello! Long story short, all my life, I felt something was wrong with me. For some time, I started to ask myself if I may be neurodivergent. I tried to open up to my psychologist about this, but I was immediately shut down. I was told I can't have ADHD because I didn't fail in medical school, and I've had decent grades so far (even though I always feel behind others at studying and my grades are significantly lower, despite the effort I've put in, not to mention I dreading to study at a subject that I really lack interest of and during studying I tend to daydream a lot).

I was told I can not have autism by my psychologist because I am not deranged by every sound (even though some sounds, like laughing from other people, can be quite annoying to me).

Anyway, I went to a psychiatrist when I was on a low period of the semester. I went there cause I needed answers. I felt something was wrong with me, and psychotherapy didn't help me anymore.

So, I did the tests. First, DIVA-5. Then the CAARS-S:SV and RAADS-R.

Now, for the DIVA-5, I got:

\- for the attention deficit a 1/9 in childhood and 5/9 in adult life

\- for hiperactivity/Impulsivity 3/9 in childhood and 6/9 in adulthood

Now, the lower score in childhood may be because of my strict childhood, with parents that monitor every step.

But at the RAADS-R, I got a definitely higher score, and it seemed more evident that I may be on the spectrum. Now, I am not sure if I can say that I am autistic just because of these tests, or I need to do more research and testing in order to get an official diagnosis.

Truth is, finding out that I may be high functioning autistic felt a bit disturbing but also relieving because this may answer to my never ending questions "Why am I so weird, why I always feel out of place, why it's always so hard to read people, why I always feel behind other people, why I always feel tired after socialization, why am I so sensitive to criticism and failure, why I suck with attention especially now when I am an adult...why...and why..."

My question is, should I ask my psychiatrist to do other tests, like the CAT-Q?