u/Teenage_DramaQueen

I got a job as a VA earlier this year and already want to quit. My job has a super high turnover rate and we’ve had 4 people quit since May. Where I work it is expected that the VAs are basically janitors as well. Along with helping the vets with animals all day, drawing blood and giving vaccines, running tests, reading swabs, making drugs, and typing out notes, we are also expect to do laundry, clean the dishes, sweep and mop the floor, take out the trash, restock and any other cleaning related things that might come up. Is that normal? I see posting for kennel assistant/ janitors so I would assume not all places expect this from the VAs. On top of this I almost always have to stay overtime. I’m supposed to get off at 7 but usually get out closer to 8-8:30. Is this normal as well? I’m getting really burnt out and dread going to work because of all the end of day duties I am tasked with. Even when people aren’t scheduled to close they also usually end up staying overtime to help with cleaning, notes and other end of day tasks. Let me know if this is normal or not, I’m highly considering looking for another job but if this is the standard I would be more open to staying where I am at.

Me and my ex broke up last November after being together for four years. At first we were in a weird place but still hanging out pretty frequently but 3 months post break up he told me he only sees me as a friend and is frustrated I see him as an ex and not a friend. After that he moved to a different country for a few months but is now back in town. While he was away we had limited contact because I realized I was the one initiating every conversation and that he would take forever to respond. He claims it was because he didn’t want to reach out to anyone from home while he was away. Now he’s back and he reached out asking if I wanted to hang out but I feel so confused. If I was so insignificant he was able to get over me and our four year relationship in three months and start dating again why does he want to hang out? Do you think he feels an obligation to stay in my life or do you think there’s a possibility there’s repressed feelings he isn’t bringing up. I feel like I’m mostly over him but every time he comes back around feelings I thought were gone flood back in a little bit. Because of this I think I’m not going to reach out, if he wants to hang out he can reach out to me and we can plan something. I’m emotionally confused but don’t want to ask how he’s feeling since it never seems to give clarity and usually just makes me feel more worthless.

Me (22) and my ex (23) broke up over 6 months ago and for me the feelings are still confusing. I feel like I’m frustrated with him and hate him sometimes while still having the slight hope we find our way back to each other. It could be the emotions but I still have a gut feeling we might find our way back together. However, three months after the breakup he told me he only sees me as a friend and a few weeks later he told me he was fully moved on and seeing other people. This has made me feel more confident about moving on and getting on with my life without him.

In the past few months I’ve tried asking the universe for sign on what to do. I’ve seen his name, the country he’s in, the city he’s from randomly multiple times but brushed it off because maybe I was looking too hard for those signs. I also felt crazy for feeling like the universe is pointing towards him when he seems really moved on.

Last night I was in my feels and told the universe that if we’re meant to be I’m going to run into his sister today. She does live close by where I work but I haven’t seen her out in weeks. I saw a video about people’s cycles ending in your life so you never see them again and figured that his family’s cycle had ended in mine and I would get my sign today to fully let go. I DIDN’T. While I was walking around to get food I passed his sister. I’m not sure if she registered it was me or ignored me but I’m 99% sure it was her. Now I’m more confused.

Does anyone have experience of signs like this being real and accurate? Did anyone get played by the universe? Why does he seem so firmly one direction when the universe is pointing to the other? I feel crazy, I’m scared to talk about this in real life with anyone but I had to rant here. It’s a big city and while she lives close by I haven’t seen her since March so I fully expected to not see her and accept the answer that it’s over. I’m not going to let this go to my head and heart and be all over him but it’s making me rethink cutting him out of my life completely when he moves back.