u/Temporarabdo

I’ve been talking to a girl and she seems much more emotionally attached than I am. I tried to build a real relationship with her, but honestly I don’t think I feel love. I feel more empathy, care, and guilt because I don’t want to hurt her.

She told me that if I leave, she will collapse emotionally. That makes me feel responsible and scared to end things, even though staying feels dishonest because I don’t feel the same way.

I asked for separation once before, but I’m not trying to hurt her. I just don’t want to keep giving hope if my feelings are not real love.

How do I end this kindly without abandoning her emotionally? And how do I know the difference between being compassionate and being trapped by guilt?

I’ve been talking to a girl and she seems much more emotionally attached than I am. I tried to build a real relationship with her, but honestly I don’t think I feel love. I feel more empathy, care, and guilt because I don’t want to hurt her.

She told me that if I leave, she will collapse emotionally. That makes me feel responsible and scared to end things, even though staying feels dishonest because I don’t feel the same way.

I asked for separation once before, but I’m not trying to hurt her. I just don’t want to keep giving hope if my feelings are not real love.

How do I end this kindly without abandoning her emotionally? And how do I know the difference between being compassionate and being trapped by guilt?