Always the 2nd choice/overlooked
How do I cope with always being the second choice or the girl guys keep on the back burner. Many a time I have started speaking to a guy and as soon as he sees my friends he immediately ditches me for them. I have numerous examples and I’m honestly surprised after those experiences I’m still open to dating. I remember I was on a date with a guy and my friend was at the same bar, she came to say hi and my date turns to me and he’s like she’s gorgeous/beautiful, another example with a different friend I was planning to go on a date with this guy, I posted a group photo with my friend and he asked for her Instagram (safe to say I removed him) ANOTHER example was when I was at a bbq I was really connecting with this guy, I got up to get a drink and when I returned he was speaking to my friend (they ended up dating for 6 months). These are all different friends and I have so so many examples. The thing is I’m not ugly, I get complimented by strangers at work, on the street. But all the guys I’ve been interested in always have their sights set on greener pastures. I TRY so hard to not get into my head about it but it’s happened so many times that I’m debating just removing myself from the dating pool. Another example is a guy I was seeing casually dropping that one of my friends was a “good looking girl” unprovoked - I tried to ignore it, but ultimately he stopped talking to me with no real explanation. Some days I debate whether I should bite the bullet at get cosmetic surgery because I think that’s the only way I will stand out amongst the sea of women. I’m looking for people that may have been in similar situations that can reassure me things get better because my confidence just keeps getting knocked further and further