u/The-world-is-cooked

Hello guys in the middle of the night again. I recently went through a few debates and arguments on this sub and honestly I don’t want outsiders turning this post into another pointless fight. Tikyazi phak vuchnas chum ne vekenas shok keh. What I really want is a genuine conversation among kashmiris that's why the whole post is in kashmiri (well not whole but most of it). If you’re a kashmiri but can’t read kashmiri, don’t worry I’ll add a short translation at the end. For now, here’s what I want to say.

As I said mai vuch recently arguements akh ze yath manz saen bai aes N word use karaan hehermulkeken lukan khilaaf yus even though arguement as manz cool wagaira che basaan magar it's not. N word che akh zulm karnuk tareek, akh discrimination, akh racial slur yus kashiryo khot asal kus haeki samjith. Aes peth te che aamut zulm karne ethai paeth che aamut blacks an peth te zulm karne te N word che tim zulmech nishaeni. Ye word aes use karan black slaves an dehumanise karne khaetre. Even though the word doesn't have any problematic meaning. Emeuk matlab che black (the color) magar the history attached to it is what makes the word problematic. Ye che black lukan objectify karne khaetre banyomut. Em word saeth che iwan violence, colorism, racism bei lynching justify karne yum saeri cheez che gunah and can never be justified. Even though it might seem like ye oos history manz racism khaetre use gaxaan aaz kis zamanas manz kya masle che ye use karnas. Magar ye gayi texe katha ki aes banavo paninen past atrocities an mazak since they're a part of history magar um che keh cheez aasan yum ne akh insaan zah che haekaan mushraevith. Emyik zakham che hamesh rozaan moujood. I request all of you to please refrain from using the n word. It’s not cool or harmless. As kashmiris, we constantly speak up against violence, oppression and discrimination so it’s hypocritical for us to casually use a slur that carries so much pain and history for another community. We know what it feels like when people dehumanize others or reduce their suffering to jokes. That’s exactly why we should be more aware of the language we use. Respect should not stop at our own boundaries.

TLDR: Don’t use the n word. It’s not just a word or internet slang. It carries a long and painful history of racism, violence and dehumanization. Using it casually can never be justified.

Mai vento yan paeth mai ye sub join kur na wallah oosum sukoon. Tekyazi yeti che progressives te, bakiyan religion an hend te bei sare panine maji kasheer lol baraan magar mai vento akh kath ye ootre peth kus trath che yath vexmex. Yath sub as haekan na keh strict moderation rules benith yem saeth um hehermulkek thoda dafa rozhan saeni personal space nish. Aes haeko ne uman nish saen personal space respect karnech umeed thaevith keh tikyazi su che ne umo zah aasan hyuchmuti yum lukh rape justify haekan kerith tum kya karan personal space as respect magar ath cha keh solution kin ve che asi paninen post an peth godyuk comment umne hund vuchun

Assalamualaikum!

I love the idea of following the Qur'an only. In fact I have been a Quran only muslim for some time now but I have a question for those who have followed this path for many years.

Do you believe in the Qur'an as the sole source of guidance or do you also accept things beyond it, such as science. Do you think you need science or is the Qur'an sufficient for everything? Similarly, with modern ideas and reforms like feminism and other social developments. Should muslims like other humans engage with and adopt beneficial reforms? Or do you strictly limit yourself to the Qur'an alone and not go beyond it?

I don't know if this flair is the correct one for this post or not but this seemed the most right one.

Assalamualaikum everyone. I wanted to share something personal with you all today. A few days ago I had a very important exam. Like always, I wanted to pray to Allah beforehand for calmness and barakah. But there was one issue, I was on my period. Growing up, I was always taught that women cannot pray during menstruation. I never did. The common narrative was that periods make a woman impure and disconnected from her worship for those days. Strangely, it was also presented as a mercy for women because of the pain, yet it never felt merciful when I genuinely wanted to turn to Allah and was told I couldn’t. However, after reading discussions here and on the quraniyoon sub, I decided this time would be different. I performed ghusl as best as I could, cleaned myself properly, made wudu and prayed. As expected it was such a beautiful and emotional experience. I cried throughout the prayer. For the first time, I didn’t feel cut off from my lord during my period. I felt seen, loved and connected. The guilt and conflict I used to carry melted away in those moments. Also alhamdulillah, the exam went really well and I’m happy with my score.

Thanks for reading that long rant. But here's what I truly want to say. A few months ago, I was completely lost. I had made up my mind to leave islam. I was seriously considering becoming an atheist or someone who believes in god but wants nothing to do with organized religion. I had grown deeply resentful. To me, islam felt like a patriarchal system that placed men on a pedestal while women were expected to be subordinates. No matter how many times I heard islam is the best religion for women, my heart couldn’t accept it. The contradictions and certain rulings I had been taught kept piling up until I felt nothing but disappointment and anger even towards the religion and the prophet . I know this is something I could never say openly in most muslim spaces, which is why I’m grateful this sub exists as a safe place to be honest. Then, around two months ago, I downloaded reddit for a completely unrelated reason and somehow stumbled upon this community. Reading the discussions here pushed me to do proper research on the topics that were breaking my faith. For the first time, I approached the Quran and our deen with an open mind instead of inherited interpretations. Slowly, the knots in my heart began to untie. Alhamdulillah, today I feel secure in my beliefs again. The love I once had for my religion has returned even stronger. I feel a deep sense of peace that I hadn’t felt in years. What I thought was the end of my faith actually became the beginning of a more honest and personal connection with Allah.

I’m still learning and growing, but I wanted to share this because I know there are sisters and brothers here who might be struggling in silence the same way I was. Please don’t lose hope. Sometimes the darkest phase of doubt leads you to a clearer, more sincere imaan.

I just wanted to take a moment to sincerely thank every single one of you in this sub.

You have not only helped restore my faith but you’ve also made me feel secure and at peace with it again. What was once filled with doubt and resentment is now filled with love and clarity. Even though you don’t know me personally, your posts, discussions and insights helped me tremendously during one of the hardest times in my spiritual journey. I’m truly grateful. May Allah bless each and every one of you in ways you can never imagine. May He ease your struggles, answer your duas and return every bit of goodness you’ve shared with others back to you multiplied.

Hi everyone! I am about halfway through my first draft and I’ve run into something I’m not sure how to feel about. I keep hearing that first drafts are supposed to be messy and chaotic and that’s just part of the process. But for me that’s really hard to accept. I have this constant urge that pushes me to fix things as I go. I end up polishing sentences and refining details before I even move forward. The problem is, it slows me down a lot. And it also makes me doubt my work. When I reread what I’ve written, it feels too polished for a first draft and I end up feeling bad. Because in my head that's not how a first draft was supposed to look like.

So now I’m stuck in this weird space where I am trying to do things right but I am not even sure what this right means.

Does anyone else write like this?

Assalamualaikum

I recently watched a video in which a man claimed that, according to Islamic teachings if a girl experiences precocious puberty she can be married and the marriage can also be consummated. He further argued that this could apply even to a five year old child. This did not make sense and I found it deeply disgusting

I would like to understand this issue from an islamic perspective. I hope to get educated about what the Qur’an says about the rules of marriage, maturity and consent. I would prefer an explanation based on the Qur’an only but if you believe in hadith and have an answer based on hadith then I would also appreciate that.

I would greatly appreciate a clear and detailed analysis of this topic. Thank you so much in advance.