so a friend of mine is having relationship issues. her girlfriend has basically been calling her a disdainful bitch and saying that my friend doesn’t care about her. this has happened a few times, and it’s evidently a disfunctional relationship. but then again is it my place to say that?
am I in trouble? I’m 16 and I started this season. this sunday my workload is
community u15 girls as on field
community u14 as on field
NPLW (semi-professional women’s for non Australians) u21 as Linesman
NPW First team as Linesman
so I met this girl 6 months ago now, I go to an elite single sex private school and so does she, but sometimes in year 11/12 we do cross campus classes with her school, and she was in my physics class. I originally have a crush on her because of the way she acts, I love nerdy girls, so her nerding out in class was getting me worked up etc. so I hit her up and we started ‘talking’. about a week after starting to talk a lot, I find out from a mutual friend that she has a girlfriend and I was shocked. that pretty much friendzoned myself for me. I haven’t gone for it since
a month after that though, it came through 2 different pathways that she’d said I was hot and that ‘she’d date me if she wasn’t dating ….’ which confused me because they’re not normal things you say when your in a happy 2 uear relationship.
fast forward a few months, we become a lot closer and at this point she’s on of my closest friends but nothing more than that, still has a girlfriend. I was a plus one to her school formal which her girlfriend was already at, and I feel really bad because she was getting excluded because my friend kept leaving her and coming over to me. for reference her girlfriend is a major introvert so that may play into it. but then my friend started getting super possessive of me, like I was on a diet for sports, but she made sure I’d eaten and drunk water and seemed happy to follow me around a room socialising mostly with my mates, when there were lots of her friends there. fast forward to the next morning. I make it clear that I don’t want to be something that comes between her and her girlfriend and she says that I'm not and that if I was it was more of an issue with her girlfriend not me.
fast forward another few months, now she’s my best friend and she admitted I was her closest friend other than her gf as well. her gf went on a trip and started ignoring her and she got like super depressed about it but started talking to me a lot more. this stabilised when her girlfriend got back. around this time she gets a lot more involved, like she gets my sister a birthday gift, like well thought out and made, even though we were studying for exams that week. Super thoughtful. And started getting more involved and asking about my family more and just getting a bit more emotionally cosy
now yesterday I had a similar formal event, but at my school and she was my plus one. her parents don’t know about her gf so off the bat her dad is sussing me out. we laugh about this tho. the actual event was very similar to the other one as her school except her gf wasn’t there. but the after party spiced it up. take my recollection with a grain of salt, I had 12+ shots and some of this has been retold to me, I’ve got a decent memory and major parts have been confirmed by other people. so I’m drunk, she’s had a fee but not drunk. she offers to sneak my vodka past security guards down her top. then the 12 shots hit me, I’m 85kg male so Im fine, but I wasn’t then. I find myself in the mosh pit with some hand around some random girls waist (my mate said I was about a minute from first base). but then I just hit the deck. like my legs just decide they no longer want to cooperate. I kinda crawl to the wall of the venue when she turns up along with my friends gets me some water etc. I run away multiple times and end up falling over again. so one time she basically holds me down and I give up trying to get away. I end up just laying on her shoulder while I get given water etc, my friends are off helping someone else, so it’s just me and her, my heads resting on her shoulder, while her girlfriends friends are stood 2 meters away and she does the thing where she rests her head on mine, and holds my hand. basically stay like that until my mum gets there after she called her. then I get dragged into the car and go home.
long story, but I’m rather confused because I’m getting major mixed messages. as a guy and someone who also hasn’t had proper friendships or family relatjons. I never got along amazingly with my family and have always had stereotypical male friendships. I’ve got no idea what I’m looking at here because I know she’s got a girlfriend but my gut is telling me she doesn’t see me as just a friend
I’m 16, I started this season (3 months ago now due to being in australia) and I’m currently doing a mix of u13-17 in the middle, and then semi professional u18, and u23s (NPL 18s and 23s for Australians) and I’m trying to get better. I’ve always loved refereeing and I’ve fallen in love with it but don’t know if I’m too late into the game, there are people my age who are far ahead of me, could I still make it to the top level or am I too late? what are some small things which you think make the difference in being the best referee I can be?
it’s a u17 Girls game and the captain is in my physics class. not like friends but we’ve chatted because shes right in front of me. I’m not going to be biased at all but I feel like people might perceive that I am. how do i manage this?