u/TheGoldenHoratio

I can relate to so many of the experiences people have talked about here. I feel incredibly seen reading through these posts because I don’t know anyone else that was raised by an autistic parent and really gets how that can impact you.

But one big thing I’ve realized while reading through this sub is that I will never have the relationship with my dad that I wish I did. I got along with him well as a kid, and I keep wishing that I could have that kind of closer relationship with him again, but I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that that isn’t possible.

The thing is though, he wasn’t actually a very active parent. My mom did almost all of the parenting, so my dad just got to be the fun parent. My parents separated the day after I graduated from high school (which is a whole separate story lol) and in the years since then I’ve realized how much of a buffer my mom was between my dad and my siblings and I. And I’ve gotten older and my interests and worldviews have changed I’ve realized two big things, how much he has to be right and have control over things, and that he has an idea in his head of who I am that’s not actually who I am anymore, and maybe never was to begin with. Add to that he is very religious, so between that his very rigid, black and white, views of the world, I feel like I have to water down who I am when I’m around him and I hate it.

I love him, but he has also hurt me and my siblings in a lot of ways. And he is incapable seeing anyone else’s viewpoint or taking accountability for how his actions might have hurt someone. Reading so many of other people’s stories that are so similar to what I’ve dealt with has really made me come to terms with the fact that his brain just functions the way it does. He’s not going to change, and while it’s not his fault, it’s not something he’s capable of doing.

I (29m CW: ~350) played sports constantly growing up, especially soccer year round when I hit high school. In college I kept up with some sports, but was in an intensive, high stress degree, that led to a high stress and relatively low activity profession. Through high school and college I used to lift some but fell off that train when covid hit. I've been at a weight for a while now where I'm really concerned about my cardiovascular health, but all of my previous experience with cardio and lifting is based on being in a much more fit body. Does anyone have a low impact cardio/workout routine for someone who is formerly athletic but essentially starting from scratch? All the "beginner" routines I can find take the approach that you are a beginner in every sense which is not quite where I'm at.

TLDR: I'm looking for low impact workout/cardio routines for someone who is an overweight former athlete (a beginner that's not really a true beginner)