u/ThePragmatic7347

I can't code, I have been trying to learn but this is a skill set that I have surrendered too. That being said I have a solid idea for an application that isn't new in concept but new in the area I stay and I 100% believe that if marketed right it's going to do well.

The only thing holding me back is I don't have $1000 to pay a coder to build the app for me.

I was thinking if there's anyone interested in teaching me how to code or if you are interested in partnering up for a chance into the unknown let's talk.

The idea is simple, ridiculous even but I believe in it.

I used to think I was lazy and unmotivated to work

Then I started pushing harder in a system that does not allow the right channel of things to work

I soon came to discover that the problem wasn't me

I have done all I can to succeed here in Zim but I am just ordinary and not connected.

I am not a begger but I will swallow my pride to ask my fellow countrymen to share links for opportunities in the diaspora

I 30f and my partner 26f are dead locked in a dispute.

My partner and I have been together for over two years now, things have been great I can't complain.

We are together most of the time but my partner has her own place and I mine and we are both cool with that. We are almost always at my place most times and I have only been to her place once and it wasn't even a full day.

This is not because I don't want to be there but she always has different reasons as to why we shouldn't be there and gradually I choose to just let it go.

A few months back my partner was going through something and I asked her what the issue was and she just told me she will tell me when she feels like it.

From my standpoint it felt like something serious was going on and I didn't know what to do because comforting her wasn't working, I decided to check her messaging app and opened her chat with her mum I knew she tells her everything.

From what I gathered she seemed to be going through a divorce with a man she's never talked about who we will call Mr X. I also found out that Mr X was the owner of her place and from time to time he goes there cause they were arguing about used condoms from what I saw from the screenshot in her mum's chat.

I was hurt and disoriented but I couldn't confront her so I just played along and I repeatedly asked what was wrong she didn't always said she can't talk about.

Instead of walking away I started monitoring the situation and I came to the conclusion that their relationship was over and it's something I can leave with I also closed that chapter.

Fast forward to the last 2 months, her behavior started to shift it was subtle but I could see patterns that were alerting my red flags so I was aware that something was happening I just didn't know what.

A few weeks back she went to her place for a few days didn't come back with her house keys, she then later mentioned that she has to go back to her place to get her new keys from her landlord then and there I knew she was lying.

So a few days back I read her messages and surprise surprise she has been having sex with the guy every time she goes back to her place. Not only that but she is also in a relationship with four other people.

I made sure that this time she knew I touched her phone, and she got made because she said we told each other we shouldn't touch each other's phones. It is true and I only said that because she has an awful habit of reading my chats like she is reading a novel and I wasn't allowed to do the same so I got fed up and told her if she doesn't want me to touch her phone she shouldn't touch mine. Already she knows I don't talk to anyone I am not a social person.

I confronted her about Mr x she says she can't talk about it and doesn't want to be coerced into speaking about the person and I told her we can't talk unless she is ready to talk and we aren't speaking.

So am I an asshole for wanting to know what the fuck is happening?

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I do not know the psychology behind this phenomenon and I would like someone who can reason with me as to why this happens.

Since the penetration of social media into our everyday lifestyle, I have noticed a pattern that many I think can also recognize. If you are in the depths of poverty or have some mental challenges and create your content be it you are just showing your organic day to day lifestyle or a manufactured one that frames you in a position of the have nots the general public will uplift you.

I can give examples of the likes of Mai Titi, Madam Boss many forget were they started because of the position they are in now but it's an undeniable trend, the Nyathis', Captain Britain, Bybit and most recently mama Rasta when they are at their authentic self or a version of that it is undeniable that empathy especially when they start out it's at an all time high.

Right about then the established culture vultures, your usuals the Hatipere's, Royal Mint, Magic Wacho they come into play, seeming to be the bridge between the audience and the weight of the multiple sponsors they have that they will be trying to promote and stay relevant themselves come into play.

Some know how to capitalize the attention, many fail miserably.

Even if they do manage to move further from their original content, for the audience they stay behind with the image they first had of the people they have empathy for. There is pure rejection on the part of the majority of the audience, "why do you want to be bigger than the programmer, we made you therefore we own YOU'.

The cycle continues, we bring people up, put them on a pedastal, when they start succeeding we throw them down and look for another person to put out our empathy towards so that we feel good about our current predicament.

What is that known as on a psychological or social level?

I have one question for those who are willing to answer without trying to generalize a thought on the onset that sounds so basic but when you really think about its not life changing but just a thought that needs an answer.

Those in control of Al Algoriths are constantly saying they use our data to train their Al's to be better suited to our conviniences but what if we are the ones being trained and conditioned by the Algorithms, to know what to think, how society should be shaped and what is and is acceptable to society.

Decensetised to render us emotionless of care other than our next purchase or to constantly feed into the machine.

I am fascinated by the founding principles of Free Mansiory, how can I have access to other free thinking individuals like that?

I am fascinated by the founding principles of Free Mansiory, how can I have access to other free thinking individuals like that?