u/TheSacredGrape

We’re having our first baby in a few months and finding a name for her has been quite tricky, to say the least.

My husband is Danish, as in, he’s from Denmark. He’s got a very Danish first and last name (as does the rest of his family ofc), and he’d like our daughter to have a Danish name too—but I don’t know; I just feel like I’m too damn white. I’d love to give her an ultra-Danish middle name though! Or three!

For example, I suggested Christine Margrethe Nielsine Karen. He thinks it’s OK, but he’d rather go with the Danish version, which is Kirsten. Am I overthinking this?

For context, there’s a family gathering tomorrow with a lot of people we haven’t seen in years. I am also in my early 20s and live on my own.

My elderly father politely suggested that I shave or otherwise get rid of my pit hair for the gathering, as he says that a.) it detracts from my academic achievements, b.) it’s quite long (it’s like an inch long) and c.) he finds it a bit embarrassing.

I haven’t shaved my pits in several years, and he has *never* made any comment about this until today. He said he didn’t mean to upset me, and I know he meant well, but I still felt quite disturbed. I did explain that I like the hair, so he’ll let me get away with a trim, but...yeah.

To top it off, an hour after this conversation, my mother brought me a shaving kit she’d bought at Costco (there was a sale and she’d bought others for her house).

I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not, but....