r/razorfree

Hi. I have a question, which really concerns me. I know beauty standards for women but due to my health I have to let my pubic hair grow naturally. When I shave, I have one urinary tract infection after another, when I have hair down there, I am healthy all year long. But what really bothers me is "Are there men who like women with pubic hair somewhere" or all of us have been taught that only clean shaved genitalia are beautiful in women?

It just made me so sad to see. So many women who can't even seem to fathom that you can exist without shaving and be happy about it! If there was a magic button I could press to painlessly get rid of all my body hair, I'd never press it. I love my natural look. I hate that the patriarchy makes us feel this way.

It annoys me SO bad whenever I see these "I shave due to sensory issues" comments under any video discussing female body hair. And these comments always come up. Always.

And it might just be me, being autistic, that i get the ick when every random person throws around the term sensory issues. Because sure, every single one of these people could be autistic, too. Ain't that convenient!

But where are the people saying that they DON'T shave due to sensory issues? Why is no one making THAT point? Everything about shaving is sensory hell. The coordination struggles, the wetness of foam and water, the constant pressure from the razor, the sheer amount of labor it takes. Not to mention the awful itchy irritated feeling of your poor hair trying to grow back.

To me, these comments read like an attempt to justify the act of bowing to the system of body hair removal. Because something as serious as sensory issues is a much better reason to conform to misogynistic and pedophilic beauty standards than.. what exactly?

I hope one day this particular reasoning won't upset me this much. But for now, I am frustrated.

Today i saw a woman with leg hair at her workplace and it really made me want to be braver than i am right now.

It was at an outdoor amusement park and she was doing security checks for a ride. She wore shorts and since we were already sitting when she came to check basically everyone taking that ride was face to face with her leg hair. Meanwhile i was too scared to enter my office workplace in shorts this summer... Really made me think.

I love her for being her, unapologetically. One day i want to be like her.

(18 f) I don't shave my legs because I don't care, don't feel a need to, don't care to conform to gender norms, and it's quite freeing when you realize you don't have to care about what other people think.

But my dad genuinely has steam coming out of his ears every time he sees my legs. He tells me it's unhygienic, embarrassing, people think I'm weird, other family members talk shit about me because of it, I look like a loser and I am a loser, asking if I wanna transition. Well I actually identify as genderfluid so he isn't far off but man shut the fuck up, I don't know how much more intensely I can express the fact that I just don't care, we do this shit every other week for a few days. I pointed out the hypocrisy and he just says "I'm a man" so that argument isn't getting me anywhere

And what's silly is he doesn't even notice it most times. I can do a project with him all day, go out in public for a while, etc and he doesn't say a thing because he doesn't pay attention. Meanwhile he tells me that EVERYONE sees is and EVERYONE thinks I'm a weirdo, the only people who don't do it is (insert a bunch of racist remarks) and daring me to go into work with hairy legs. Oh boo hoo Jimmy John's flips their shit and fires me. My mom chimes in sometimes and threatened to get rid of my dog 😭 (dad told her to back off) but damn what about it evokes such a strong reactions? Anything I can say to get them to stfu?

I keep hearing that growing out pit hair can keep your armpits from smelling. I usually only shave my armpits once every few months. Once I start growing them out, it starts to smell a lot faster than when I shave.

Not really sure what I’m doing wrong, I shower everyday and use deodorant. Maybe it’s because shaving gives you that exfoliation, should I start exfoliating my armpits more??

Do you guys find your bodyhair unattractive? Maybe from bald patches or just general imperfections.

I hate that society has shamed people into thinking that body hair is unnatural. My firend is body positive and i cant imagen such a kind person having to go through body hair shaming.

Im not sure why, and I didn’t realize how much it meant to me, but immediately after I regretted it. However, it’s kind of nice to see feel how at home and comfy I was with my natural body hair before.

Ready for it to grow back so I can enjoy the little things about it again lol

For context, there’s a family gathering tomorrow with a lot of people we haven’t seen in years. I am also in my early 20s and live on my own.

My elderly father politely suggested that I shave or otherwise get rid of my pit hair for the gathering, as he says that a.) it detracts from my academic achievements, b.) it’s quite long (it’s like an inch long) and c.) he finds it a bit embarrassing.

I haven’t shaved my pits in several years, and he has *never* made any comment about this until today. He said he didn’t mean to upset me, and I know he meant well, but I still felt quite disturbed. I did explain that I like the hair, so he’ll let me get away with a trim, but...yeah.

To top it off, an hour after this conversation, my mother brought me a shaving kit she’d bought at Costco (there was a sale and she’d bought others for her house).

I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or not, but....

I'm so sick and tired of this.

I have had skin irritation and sensitivity issues with my legs that prevents me from being able to shave.

Waxing is the only thing that works for me that doesn't make me suffer for weeks after.

But I can't afford that kind of maintenance so I only do it for special occasions, like weddings or vacations.

My dad is very traditional in this sense, and has publicity shamed \*and\* humiliated me several times, and has taken unsolicited, unprompted photos of my hairy legs in the comfort of my own home.

It is an ongoing issue, and so today I asked why does he think it's so gross and unnatural for a women to have body hair that grows normally just like it does on men?

"Because it's the law in this house and I prefer it that way. It's for proprietary and fashion."

So I asked him why doesn't he shave since his legs are worse than mine;

"Because I'm not a women."

I will happily take any good articles on this to send him if anybody has one.

I've already collected several screenshots from an article and highlighted the important bits for him, particularly how men used to shave and even used to seashells to do it :)

A man with body hair is normal but a woman with body hair is repulsive, not normal, “too liberal” etc etc when she’s just not wasting her time on removing something that for some reason can’t be seen on women but can be seen on men.