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Haven’t been able to get myself to go to the grocery store in a long time and I’ve gotten tired of plain butter pasta even though that’s always my go to.

I cook (any) pasta like normal until al dente. Then, I pour about half the water out (this water will be your broth or sauce, so keep as much as you want). Then, I add vegetable bouillon, garlic powder, onion powder, parsley, pepper, just add any seasonings you have lying around. Then, add butter and chili oil. The water will go down quite a bit depending how much seasoning you use. You can also add any veg, beans, or protein.

I’m really sad to be writing this because I don’t want others opinions affect me. This was the first time I went out with my armpit hair showing, I was wearing a halter neck so they were fully out. I was at my first solo concert and I thought the crowd going to this artist would be more progressive but I guess not.

Anyways some guys were sitting behind me and they kept talking about it. I really don’t want to care about a mans opinion but it really just made me so sad that the world is still like this.

EDIT: CREEPY MEN DO NOT MESSAGE ME, YOU WILL BE BLOCKED

I just want to start off by saying that I am very privileged to just now really be thinking about this. I am bi and have been single since traveling so it’s not really something I thought about that much.

I was looking at the list of countries on my bucket list and realized in many of them, gay marriage is illegal. I have always dreamed of going to a lot of these places but now I don’t want to support anyone’s economy who supports this.

I want to bleach then dye my body hair but what’s actually safe to use on your skin? I sometimes use the sally hansen bleach on my arms but I was thinking of getting a regular box hair bleach to be more cost effective but is that skin safe? And then with the colors, will that even work or just dye my skin? I know hair dye can stain your skin.

I have been struggling with going razor and scared of what others will think. Maybe this is common sense but hearing this take really makes me never want to shave again.

Humans have hair point, blank, period. By removing that hair you are essentially becoming less human. If someone is grossed out by your hair it’s because they are objectifying you and don’t see you as human. Of course some people aren’t doing this consciously, it’s been ingrained in them. Either way, when you put it like this, the stigma needs to end.

Looking at going to Boston in December, what are good areas to stay in? Also let me know of any must do or must see things please!

I’ve always had my guard up because of trauma but looking back on the past is really scaring me in how I’ve handled all my past relationships romantic or platonic.

I’ve cut a lot of people off or just blew them off from the start out of fear of being hurt, rejected, or I just literally couldn’t recognize that they wanted to talk to me or be friends with me.

It hurts because I’m looking back at what could’ve been.

I always knew that I’ve had a hard time socially and have been strict with cutting people off but what I’m seeing now is quite heartbreaking. I thought that I was doing better and learned more on how to build and foster relationships. But now what I’m looking at doesn’t look like that all.

I am just panicking not only about what could’ve been but also any future relationships. How do I fix this about myself??

This is so challenging for me because there’s so many places I would LOVE to go back to but there’s also many places that I’ve never been. How do you decide or what’s your reasoning?

I’ll obviously never be able to see the whole world but is it worth it to go back to your favorite places? or maybe see more new things before going back?

Just heard someone talk about this and thought I would share.

I keep a box of trash bags and some folded up grocery bags in my nightstand and it’s been a game changer in keeping my room clean. I have a chronic illness and it keeps me in bed a lot of the time and I struggle to get up. By keeping these accessible in my nightstand it’s a lot easier to get started with the task. I can just grab a bag and start throwing the trash away right then and there. Even if I don’t feel like taking it out right at that moment, at least it’s all contained and more manageable then I feel more motivated to take it out because it’s now a smaller task. I think breaking things up into small manageable tasks is the key to keeping my room clean.

I am flying out to see my friend for her birthday so it needs to be something small. She’s turning 23. The budget is preferably under $30 since I spent a lot to go see her but I don’t want to come empty handed. I was thinking maybe a nice lipgloss or jewelry. I don’t really know what’s “in” or cool right now.

I have been on and off therapy and meds for the past 7 years and nothing has really seemed to work. I have an upcoming appointment at a new primary care to hopefully be referred into their psych system which is supposedly one of the best in the country. Because of that, it’s a little more expensive and I just want to make sure I get the most out of my appointment. Is there anything you recommend I tell the doctor or the best way to go about it? I just feel like I’ve been doing something wrong since none of my treatment in the past has helped. I’m also scared they will think my symptoms aren’t bad enough or that I’m being dramatic. I don’t really know how to advocate for myself but I know I need to in order to get better. I know they have departments that specialize in trauma but since I’m in the US and cptsd isn’t recognized, I’m scared they won’t take me seriously. But I have been diagnosed with ptsd.

I had A TON of empty water bottles scattered all over my room for weeks and it just kept growing. I finally decided to pick them up. It took 1 minute. I get how hard it can be (trust me the rest of my room is still a wreck) but doing this little thing that took so little time lifted a big weight off my shoulders. Thought I would share to hopefully encourage one of you in your unfucking process :)

Appointments (especially getting into specialized care such as EMDR) are extremely expensive. I have insurance but for regular therapy/ psychiatric visits my copays are at least $60 every time then medications can add up as well. Therapists want me to go every 2 weeks if not every week. Intakes can cost more as well and finding new therapists that actually understand trauma. I just can’t keep up with it and it’s very discouraging.

A little over a year ago my antidepressants just stopped working out of no where. Anyways I ended up in inpatient. They gave me so many meds and it was awful. It wasn’t just while I was there, they prescribed me all the meds after I got out too. They made me feel like a zombie, I couldn’t even drive.

Since then, a lot in my life has changed and I just didn’t really seek help since then.
Now I’m at a point where I definitely need help. I’m just traumatized from those meds.

I think the issue is that the providers don’t understand cptsd and I know it’s not even technically a diagnosis in the US. But because of that how am I supposed to even find proper care?

I have been looking for inspo for furnishing and decorating my apartment but I really don’t like the “clean girl aesthetic” which it seems like is all the inspo these days. I just don’t like how sterile and boring it looks. I’m not really looking for maximalism though either. I’m just trying to figure what words to use when looking for inspo that don’t lead back to clean girl. For context I am in my early twenties and still want young and fun decor.

I’m about to move out by myself for the first time. This is what I’ve always wanted but this immense fear just came over me.

I’m single and don’t have any friends where I’m moving to. I’m scared that I’m going to isolate myself.

I think this is really the only way I’ll be able to regulate my nervous system. I’ve been really excited about so I don’t know why I feel this way now. Like I actually have a pit in my stomach. I think it’s realistic that I might isolate, so I feel like this isn’t irrational. I’m going to go back to therapy once I move so I can find someone close by. I don’t really know what else to do to stop me from isolating.

I think I’m also scared because I am really bad at making friends and talking to new people. I’ve moved to new places several times but have always had roommates which really softens the blow of making new friends.

With that being said, I wouldn’t say I’m a total introvert, I actually love hanging out with people and going out.

One of my close friends from college (we were friends all 4 years) stopped talking to everyone. I moved out of the country for a year and right before that she just stopped responding to me, we had planned to get together before I left. I talked to her other friends and they said she stopped talking to them as well.

She deleted all her social media so I don’t really know what’s going on in her life. I still have her on find my friends and saw that she’s still in my city. I really want to reach out because I miss her and I’m also worried about her.

I kind of don’t want to reach out though because I think she cut off everyone for a reason. Maybe I was a bad influence, I really don’t know.

Then again, she also sees me on find my friends and she hasn’t reached out, so maybe she really doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore.

I used to use pinterest but now everything is AI. I’m trying to find some real inspiration pictures for 90s 2000s vibes.