r/UnfuckYourHabitat

I need help. I don’t even know where to start. I’ve been in a deep depression for about 9 ish months. My room has become trashed to the point where I found a literal bowl of larvae in the corner. Im so icked out and I don’t even know how it took me that long to make it my final straw. I feel so disgusted with myself and my surroundings. I have trash everywhere along with clothes and trash bags I haven’t been able to throw out. I live with family that don’t come in my room but I’m not able to throw all the trash bags out at once and on top of that, I have more family visiting downstairs currently for the next week. Im so overwhelmed and I can barely see my floor

Please direct me if I am posting my question in the wrong place.

Could someone please share tips on how to offer support to my sister in UFing her apartment and car? She has struggled with it for as long as I can remember (she’s in her late 50s). There’s no need to go into a lengthy description. She’s recently shared that an ex told her he couldn’t go to her place anymore (cat urine smell and squalor) and that is why he ended the relationship. Her car is the same way.

Her grooming is immaculate. Friends and coworkers would be shocked to see her living space. She works remote and is required to be on camera. She’s told me she is worried the mess behind her will show even with the Teams backgrounds.

She says she has a goal of cleaning her apartment and keeping it that way. She says she knows the way she lives prevents her from having close relationships both romantically and with friends. We’ve had long discussions about it. It reminds me of the conversations I’ve had with alcoholics when it comes to getting sober. “Next weekend I’m going to clean it all up…”

Over the last 30 years I have tried different approaches-I’ve ignored it, addressed it head on, and had heart felt conversations. We’ve talked about if it is related to depression. She says her place stays the same regardless of her present outlook.

She recently got a cochlear implant and is excited to be able to participate in more social activities. I know there is the dynamic of the older sister (me) being controlling. However, it’s beyond that-I want her to have pride in her home and to feel like she can have people over.

Do I just say it’s her choice and her life?

Thank you for any insight on what has helped you feel supported by friends and family.

I'm extremely grossed out by mold. I'm also lazy when it comes to cleaning, but I especially hate dumping out moldy or expired foods or liquids like cheese/milk. There's a container of peas in the back of my fridge that has been collecting mold because Everytime I had cleaned my fridge out prior I was too scared to touch it (pathetic, I know).

Before I got a job recently I got all this food from a food pantry that was not appetizing and was probably already expired and it's been sitting in my fridge for over a month.

After I clean my fridge out I am deciding I want to get foods that are primarily pantry foods and also small portions only of things like milk or fruit or anything that will expire fast.

But for now, I can't keep avoiding my fridge because I get scared and disgusted Everytime I have to open it for ketchup or butter or something.

Basically. I've put off cleaning the fridge which only makes the fridge worse, and I've sucked it up and got rid of moldy foods/dishes before and the mold is just as disgusting as I imagined and made me almost throw up, so I just KNOW I'm going to be traumatized but it's my fault anyways.

Any advice to make it as less traumatizing as possible though? I'm really scared and ashamed, but I need to rip the bandaid off as I'm at a turning point where I genuinely want a clean and organized and aesthetic looking living space.

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I have a question for the hive mind. My apartment is abysmal, filled with clutter and trash. I’m not all that hygienic myself, to be honest. So..
I bought myself an air fryer as a reward for cleaning my kitchen. I bought a new mattress pad and sheets to reward myself for showering every night. I can put in a maintenance request for my broken air conditioner if I get the apartment cleaned up…
Has anyone had success with this? Just curious on your thoughts. Haven’t done any of it yet, by the way, still just staring at the chaos..

Ive been in here before giving advice on unfucking things, posting pics of my unfuckt home, but I'm STUCKT right now.

I'm not sure what I'm experiencing, but it's probably a too-low dose of thyroid medication (bloodwork came back super high) combined with ADHD that my doctor actually refused to prescribe me meds for. Anyway, it's brain fog and fatigue, and it's so bad it's been like 3 months I haven't been able to clean my bedroom/bathroom consistently or get my laundry done without dragging it out for a week. I used to have a nearly religious weekly cleaning routine, now I'm just a mess! I got so depressed about it at one point, I really wished I had an in-person friend I could call to come over and help. (Unfortunately, my best friends are online/on the other side of the continent.)

Are there other people in here with chronic illness issues that have a strategy for keeping house when the mind and the body are just barely functional?