r/UnfuckYourHabitat

20yr F
Parents house, childhood bedroom
Thrifted a lot to keep depression away, now it’s time to actually work on the hard stuff and bring my room to normal.

I have a lot of clutter. I am just lost.
I don’t know how to decorate anymore ?
Overwhelmed. Very much.
Any advice,
What to get rid of, what to keep,
How to decorate / organize

I’m very obsessed with maximizing my possibilities which ultimately paralyzes me, and I feel like if I don’t get my room right it will be a very long time until I have the energy again to change it.

I took a picture of my bathroom, and outside of my room, because I have a bunch more clutter/decor that I cleared out of my room. Now you can see everything that I have accumulated.

Help !!

Had less than 24 hours to clean my apartment so maintenance could come do a filter change. I didn’t declutter, just stuff shifted and moved a lot of things (aka moved a lot of stuff into other rooms for temporary stowaway lol). I also cleaned the cat boxes, vacuumed, threw out some expired produce from my fridge, took out the trash, recycled, put my dishes away, cleaned and polished the kitchen sink, and Clorox wiped my surfaces (kitchen counter/table, bathroom counter, coffee table). My apartment is definitely not even close to being done, and I’m going to have to move everything back into the living room after maintenance comes, so I’ll have to deal with those bags and boxes still eventually. But this does give me a clearer picture of how I want my place to be (of course I’d like it to be cleaner/more decluttered and more organized than this). Hopefully this helps drive my motivation because I’ve been declining there lately. Nothing like a good panic clean due to a deadline though 😅

Reiterating that this is NOT done, it’s just better and is good enough for maintenance to come in (in my opinion at least). I have a clear path for him to get to my filter which is in my living room, and he’s seen my place messier than this before. It’s also clean 🧼

Side note my cat keeps peeing on my new blue rug which is insanely frustrating and I’ve been using an enzyme cleaner but the best way to deter her from it is by putting stuff on the rug. 🫠 yes I have enough litter boxes and yes the boxes are clean. Yes she’s seen a vet and is healthy with no issues, it is a behavioral thing for her and she poops in the litter boxes but won’t pee in them. She just likes to pee on soft things and usually pees on pee pads that I change out for her, but she wants to ruin my rug and sometimes pees on my carpet. Girl just doesn’t want to share the litter boxes with my other cats but I can’t prevent them 😅 I might have to get rid of the rug entirely which makes me sad, but I can’t deal with always keeping things on the rug to deter her. Has anyone had issues like this with a cat? I’ve used different kinds of litter boxes and litter as well as litter attract 😅😭

Before & current pics of my living room/kitchen. Before pics are 1-10, current are 11-20

EDIT*: I’m aware that I’m a hoarder and have been working on it. I’m not asking for advice on that, I’ve been working on my decluttering journey for a long time and have posted about it before. Honestly all I wanted with this post was to show my progress and to keep me accountable but these comments are not the most supportive. I’m aware I have a lot of things. You don’t have to point out the obvious, I’m working on it. I’m a bit disappointed in the feedback I’m getting so I might delete this post later.

Extra edit*: even when my apartment was empty, she would pee on soft things. It’s a behavioral issue. But yes, I am working on decluttering and clearing out my apartment overall for my cats. I’m not looking for comments on the hoarding and how many things I have, I am fully aware of that. I’m a little surprised with some of the comments I’m getting because normally people are a lot more supportive and less judgmental….

EXTRA EXTRA EDIT: dang, some of you are really rude. Lots of unnecessary, unhelpful, and unsupportive comments. Y’all are soooo judgmental. If you’ve never struggled with hoarding/messiness/depression, lucky you. The Comments are not passing the vibe check here. I’ve literally never experienced this when posting in this subreddit before, so I’m really confused. Did you guys just wake up on the wrong side of the bed today? Also, I take amazing care of my cats and spoil them so hard. They are my children and I provide plenty of time, love, and care for them. My decluttering journey isn’t just for me, it’s for them too. They always have clean cat boxes, fresh food and water, and have a variety of cat trees/toys and I always look out for them.

To all of the KIND commenters, thank you so much for being supportive and kind. I appreciate you. To my haters- luckily I have a great support system irl so suck it.

I’ll leave my post up for now, if only to help motivate others. Might take it down later though. To any haters, my cats hate you. ✨💅🏼🎀🐱

I’ll try to respond to everyone’s comments that warrant a response or are supportive! Thank you!

After 15 months of illness and months in hospital, I am finally feeling up to tackling my kitchen (in a long journey to revamp my 3 bedroom house).

I’d love to have a minimalist cupboard but I’m stumped on where to start and what cupboard organisers to get. (Looking forward to replacing my pots/pans/bakeware, any suggestions on colour/sturdy brands that match my kitchen’s current colour scheme).

Can anyone do a photo edit of possible minimalist arrangement?

TIA

If any of you remember me and my sweet, gnat-fighting kitty (cat tax second photo 🫡) from this post, I hope you will all be excited to hear that it is DONE!!! The circumstances were less than ideal---it took a small flea infestation stemming from the roommates' cat requiring spraying to finally get me to clean (and, more importantly, to finally ask for help). My brother came by this weekend and helped bag trash and laundry, vacuum like hell, and douse the whole place in a good flea spray. Now not only does my sweet boy not have to fight gnats, he's also feeling much better from his new flea medication and a deep clean of our room. Thank you everyone for the support, and if anyone can learn anything from me, help CAN be there if you ask!!

This post is for anyone going through it, to let you know that you are not alone. My story: I have Depression, ADHD, and OCD. It has been a journey trying to figure out which meds work for me, so I kind of let my house go while trying to at least keep it together at work. Then I left to visit family for a couple of months. While visiting family, I found out that my company is changing ownership and the new owners aren't going to need any current employees. The good news is that while grieving the job loss, I realized my new meds are working bc I didn't want to kill myself and I suddenly have motivation to get my life together. I bought the book 'How to Keep House While Drowning' that was recommended on here, started reading, and decided that today is the day to start unfucking for 20 minutes a day. I'd love to spend more time resetting my space, but really need to focus on finding a new job first. Then once I get a job, I'll reward myself w/more time to focus on cleaning. I'm posting here to hold myself accountable and to offer support to others going through the same thing. I am so glad I found this community, let the unfucking begin!

had a friend come and help cuz i was so scared to touch anything

Spent an entire day on this…. “I’ll deal with it later” room and closed the door to ‘solve the problem’.
My brother’s old room before moving out (hence the gaming table lol) and my spare dumping ground for stuff I didn’t want in my room… deep cleaned from head to toe, cleared out wardrobe. My mind has never felt so clear since cleaning this space 🤍

My room would have to be a safe place for me, where I feel comfortable and calm and right now it’s not. there’s too much, but I don’t know where to move my things or what to throw or what to give away or what to get rid of and there are many things please if you have tips or you can tell me where to start I’m lost.