u/TheSimersCraft

I’m copying and pasting this from a previous post in the ftm subreddit.

I’m 21FTM (female to male). I grew up (and unfortunately still live in) a super strict, controlling, and religious household. Because of this. I wasn’t able to start exploring my identity until I left for college a few years ago. With the help of some peers, I realized I am a trans guy, and I’ve since changed my name and pronouns.

Through this, I’ve realized that throughout my life there’s always been signs, even when I didn’t know it. Things like longing to shop in the men’s or boys section as a kid/teen. Or always being told I need to act more like a girl, sit nicer, act nicer, ect. Hating my feminine aspects but trying to force myself to like them.

Ever since I’ve transitioned, even with all the rough stuff that comes with it, I’ve never been happier. I’m myself, even if my “loved ones” don’t approve, I’m truly myself.

But I’ve still had some self-doubt here and there, and my parents definitely getting my head from time to time, and it can be hard to ignore their words sometimes.

A game called Paralives came out recently. I’ve been playing The Sims 4 for over 5 years, and occasionally I would try and make a Sim-self, but it never looked like me, the aspects and ratios were always wrong. But Paralives, I was able to make a para that looks so similar to me it’s eerie.

While making it, I did some experimenting and gave it long hair, a bigger chest, and other feminine qualities. I couldn’t stand to look at it. It looked wrong, it made me feel gross, looking at a para that looked like me but feminine.

It’s funny, but creating myself in a video game helped me get rid of some of the self-doubt. I know it won’t get rid of all of it, I’ve got my unsupportive parents to thank for that. But it helped give me more proof that I truly am doing the right thing.

It feels a little silly saying all of this, that’s a video games helped with my dysphoria. But thank you Paralives for helping me feel good about my identity and who I am!

I suppose this fits best under the celebratory flair.

I’m 21. I grew up (and unfortunately still live in) a super strict, controlling, and religious household. Because of this. I wasn’t able to start exploring my identity until I left for college a few years ago. With the help of some peers, I realized I am a trans guy, and I’ve since changed my name and pronouns.

Through this, I’ve realized that throughout my life there’s always been signs, even when I didn’t know it. Things like longing to shop in the men’s or boys section as a kid/teen. Or always being told I need to act more like a girl, sit nicer, act nicer, ect. Hating my feminine aspects but trying to force myself to like them.

Ever since I’ve transitioned, even with all the rough stuff that comes with it, I’ve never been happier. I’m myself, even if my “loved ones” don’t approve, I’m truly myself.

But I’ve still had some self-doubt here and there, and my parents definitely getting my head from time to time, and it can be hard to ignore their words sometimes.

A game called Paralives came out recently. I’ve been playing The Sims 4 for over 5 years, and occasionally I would try and make a Sim-self, but it never looked like me, the aspects and ratios were always wrong. But Paralives, I was able to make a para that looks so similar to me it’s eerie.

While making it, I did some experimenting and gave it long hair, a bigger chest, and other feminine qualities. I couldn’t stand to look at it. It looked wrong, it made me feel gross, looking at a para that looked like me but feminine.

It’s funny, but creating myself in a video game helped me get rid of some of the self-doubt. I know it won’t get rid of all of it, I’ve got my unsupportive parents to thank for that. But it helped give me more proof that I truly am doing the right thing.

Hi. I’m 21, I had my gallbladder removed in August of 2025 after they discovered I had gallstones. What is odd is that I still seem to be having gallbladder attacks, despite me no longer having a gallbladder. These started happening about 1 or 2 weeks after the removal surgery. And, yes, I’ve spoken to the surgeon and other doctors, even did a CT, and they didn’t have much to say.

I think I have figured out some of my triggers (greasy or oily food, eating too soon before laying down for bed, and sometimes if I just need to poop). I do my best to avoid and manage those. However, I sometimes just get it randomly for no reason. I often have one shortly after waking up, and sometimes I have them randomly throughout the day.

It is the same level 10 deep pain on the right side of my stomach, below my breast and to the right of my belly button. It is so intense where I have trouble moving, speaking, and even breathing (side note: I have a high pain tolerance, have a chronic illness, and am constantly in pain due to that, so this is unusual for me). It also is paired with right shoulder pain that is also very intense and usually a level 8-10 pain. Oddly enough, the level 10 pain only lasts about 5 minutes every single time this happens. About half the time, I’ll have a lower and more manageable pain that will linger for sometimes minutes or hours.

Has anyone experienced this before? Have you found anything helpful? This keeps happening nearly every day and I’m at a loss of what to try to help better manage it. Thanks!