How would you portray the grief of a sire who has lost his only childe?
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I'm currently dealing with a rather unusual situation in my V20 chronicle and I'd love to hear how other people would portray this kind of character.
My character Agnes is a 11th Generation Malkavian who followed the Path of the Voice and Inner Power. She was embraced only two months ago, and she has now been killed.
Her sire, Emir, is a character whose personality I've developed myself, although the Storyteller portrays him in-game. Emir has spent roughly 70 years trying to find and create a childe. He didn't want a childe merely as an apprentice or an extension of himself; his ultimate goal was to find someone who could become his companion for eternity.
He's a taxidermist and an extreme perfectionist. He has had 76 previous candidates over the years, and the heads of those failed prospects are preserved as taxidermy in his home. The wraiths of those people also remain there, making his house almost a physical archive of his failures and obsessions. He has had numerous ghoul servants, all of whom he simply called Mrs. Olsen, regardless of their actual names.
Agnes was different.
Emir had developed a very deep bond with her. There was an unusual level of mutual trust between them, to the point that they were comfortable exposing their vulnerabilities to one another in ways neither would normally allow. Before embracing her, he spent a year getting to know her and made her recount the stories behind the scars she carried, treating that process almost like an examination of who she was as a person rather than simply looking for a suitable vessel for the Embrace.
And then, after seventy years of searching, he finally embraced someone he genuinely considered worthy of spending eternity with.
Two months later, she's dead.
One thing I find particularly interesting is that Emir is the sort of person who doesn't necessarily process attachment in a normal or healthy way. His entire life seems to revolve around preservation: preserving bodies, preserving memories, preserving the dead, preserving failed attempts at finding someone who could stay with him forever.
So I'm wondering:
How would you portray his grief?
Would someone like this become obsessive about preserving Agnes in some way? Would he refuse to accept that she's truly gone? Would he become increasingly fixated on the possibility of finding some remnant of her?
One idea I'm considering is having him repeatedly contact the Malkavian network, trying to reach the fragmented echoes of Agnes that might still exist within it. Not necessarily expecting to bring her back, but desperately trying to find something that still feels like her—a memory, a voice, an impression, anything that could convince him that some part of his childe remains.
I'm especially interested in how you'd handle the contradiction between his apparent perfectionism and the fact that Agnes was, perhaps, the first person he couldn't simply preserve or control.
Would his grief be quiet and ritualistic? Obsessive? Angry? Denial expressed through increasingly elaborate attempts to preserve her? Or would someone like Emir eventually accept the loss precisely because he has spent so much of his existence surrounded by the dead?
I'd love to hear how other VtM players would approach this psychologically and narratively.