u/These_Restaurant_594

this is probably discussed again and again on this sub but i’m close to just not using clank anymore. if the chat gets remotely hot and heavy every single bot just gets all possessive and hungry and they wanna “claim” my oc, even if the bot’s personality is supposed to be sweet as sugar… don’t get me started on the word “predatory..” “tell me. tell me you’re mine.” “i’m gonna ruin you for everyone else.” boy stfu you were supposed to be a kind, shy nerd, who the hell is this???

i try to redirect them with [OOC] or regenerate, i even have my own chat style, but it doesn’t work cause they just revert back to that default possessiveness. is it just the bots i use?? are there any bots that aren’t like that??

this seems to be a universal thing across these kinds of sites but i’m putting this here cause i’m open to alternatives or recommendations :<

not sure if this is the right place to post but didn’t know where else to go

a few days ago, my 12 year old sister went to hang out at her friend’s house. there ended up being some boys there that go to her school, one that she knew and two she didn’t.

she came home really quiet (which is very weird for her as she’s usually a very bubbly, energetic person, especially after being around her friends.) i asked her if everything was okay and she said yes. i assumed she was a bit tired and figured i’d check back in later.

she said she wasn’t hungry for dinner and i knew something was up. i went into her room and asked her if everything was really okay. she asked me, “do you know how to get rid of hip dips?”

TWELVE years old, mind you. i was taken aback. i didn’t even know what they were at her age, let alone think it’s something that needs to be fixed or changed.

naturally, i asked her where all of this is coming from… she told me one of the boys called her a “hiplet” and the other two laughed at it. she didn’t know what it was so she looked it up and saw it being used as an insult online. (if you don’t know.. it’s a derogatory term for women, girls in this case, who have hip dips & claim they’re romantically unattractive. pretty sure it was a born as a retaliation against women with a preference for tall men.)

i’ve been trying to reassure her that hip dips are normal, part of our anatomy, and that tons of women have them. and that those boys aren’t her friends & have a lot of growing up to do. but she’s been wearing baggier pants lately (it’s summer and hot here). i feel so helpless and it breaks my heart cause i know how easy it is for one comment at that age to stick with you, especially since i grew up internalizing a lot of comments on the internet/social media as well.

has anyone else seen stuff like this happening with younger kids?? or if you had something similar happen growing up, what actually helped you get over the insecurity? i don’t know. i’m just livid honestly and concerned for the boys of this younger generation.