u/ThestralBreeder

This McKenna West case has been making me feel so ill and anxious. My understanding is that she agreed to terminate for medical reasons but then decided those reasons were not sufficient. (I also think she is using this as a money making opportunity and is a GOP SCOTUS plant but that is a topic for another day.)

I am pro choice and pro TFMR for a number of health concerns, and I am wondering how many surrogates share the opinion that if the condition can be treated that it’s not sufficient to terminate? My understanding is that this baby will be facing a huge number of surgeries and likely a heart transplant if not another when he is older. I am so scared about having that decision taken away from my husband and I. This child would be so very wanted, but I also do not want to cause suffering. I’m sure I’m wording this in a clumsy and inelegant way, just feeling very shaken. I would love to hear from GC’s/surrogates who have terminated for medical reasons in particular, and also to hear some reassurance that this is not normal.

Hello all!

My husband and I (both early 30s) are starting the process of embryo creation and freezing and really would like to pursue having a GC. I have some medical issues (well controlled with medication that is incompatible with pregnancy) that make carrying a pregnancy extremely high risk. Even still, I am feeling quite sad about being unable to carry. I had this moment when we went for a standard ultrasound and I wanted so badly to see a baby there even though I would never be able to keep the pregnancy.

I am wondering about others experiences in either going to appointments with GC/with the IP’s, and how you felt in that moment? I feel like in my circle in NYC surrogacy is quite normalized for queer couples, but don’t hear about it for women. As such the narrative is often quite negative. I’d love to hear about how GC’s feel about female IP’s, or how people have navigated this experience? I am very anxious clearly at this early stage!