What would you think if you seen this message from your bfs mom to him?
Sorry for how long this is
Backstory:
I 18(f) and my bf 19(m) got together when I was 16 and he was 17. Soon after I turned 17 my mom kicked me out and my boyfriend’s mom invited me to live with them since I was couch hopping and living in my car.
Fast forward:
I recently got laid off from my job mid February due to reasons I couldn’t control (heart appointments) . It’s now may (just hit 3 months) and I’m still struggling to find a job. I am currently waiting to hear back from 6 jobs. I’ve applied to 30+. My boyfriend’s mom has been bashing me for the past 3 weeks to get a job by going through my boyfriend instead of talking to me. I understand where’s she’s coming from because well I do need one but why not talk to me. We are both adults.
Insight: she refuses for me to pay her for living here. I also pay for all my bills, necessities, gas, and so forth with the child support I get from my dad. Me and her don’t ever talk and have true conversations because it always turns awkward and I can tell when she judges me. As well as she never tries to start a conversation.
I may have intruded my boyfriends and his mom’s privacy by looking through messages (which he lets me look through his phone when I want, and I only looked at the ones with my name) but anyways I found this message a couple days ago along side others and it hit me like a brick and has been weighing on my chest ever since.
Side note: my bf is a mommas boy, she’s a little too attached to him as well since he’s the only boy.
My boyfriend doesn’t pay for anything for me unless he truly insists on it and they are the ones that offered the roof over my head. Now it feels like it’s being hung over my head. I’ve volunteered to leave numerous times before since I felt like a burden (to which I still do) Previously, back when I was financially stable along with my bf, we talked about finding our own place together. Whenever he brought that to his mom’s attention she got livid we even had the idea. She told us that we weren’t leaving the house until about 3 years from now.
I currently don’t know how or what to think of it as to I had done absolutely nothing to this family. I haven’t even had simply an attitude with neither of his parents the year+ I have lived here. I guess I’m just looking from an outside viewpoint. Now that you heard mostly everything, how would you feel about the situation?
Edit:
I have a good job lined up right now, just waiting for me to be able to go in and talk to the supervisor. Helped that I knew people there. I’ll be making enough to move myself out.
Edit 2: I’m not in this relationship for a place to live. This is personal beef between his mom and I. We usually get along fine especially since I take care of their 11 animals and I help with everything which is what I should do since again, I live here.