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Exactly that, I paid off $29,000 in under one year. I worked three jobs and I continue to drive a 2009 Hyundai Elantra, stick shift. I love that car though, 145k and I’ll run it till I can’t.

I’m a single mom with a full-time 17-year-old daughter and shared custody of her two siblings (dad is challenging, no child support). I bought her a car, paid off some legal debt (custody study), and consumer debt over the last year, but I’m so discouraged because I’m staring at all these upcoming expenses (a car for me, college, I need savings!!) and I just feel like I didn’t get ahead.

Anyone else arrive at a place of incredible accomplishment and just feel like they didn’t get anywhere??

My daughter (12) has a best friend (12) who lives most of the time with her mother and a two bedroom apartment. The mother also has a son (15) she has every other weekend with. I just learned that the son has a room set up in the sisters walk-in closet (so these two kids share the largest bedroom in order to have space for everyone). Mom has the other bedroom, with her boyfriend (on/off).

Turns out, on sleepovers, he will be in and out of the room. He would be or could be sleeping in the same room. I’m not OK with that and I told my daughter so but I had not yet had a chance to discuss it with the Mom.

Today my daughter got in trouble for something unrelated, and I made her come home from a visit with the friend. She wasn’t actually supposed to be at the friends house, but she left the beach and went there when she got home. She was upset and texted her friend that I said she was not allowed to sleep over there anymore because of the sleeping arrangements. Friend got upset, told Mom and Mom freaked out on me. How could I judge her, she’s doing her best, etc. I never judged her, honestly I get it. Doesn’t mean a NON sister should be in that mix. I let her vent, didn’t say much else.

Am I the asshole??

My daughter (12) has a best friend (12) who lives most of the time with her mother and a two bedroom apartment. The mother also has a son (15) she has every other weekend with. I just learned that the son has a room set up in the sisters walk-in closet (so these two kids share the largest bedroom in order to have space for everyone). Mom has the other bedroom, with her boyfriend (on/off).

Turns out, on sleepovers, he will be in and out of the room. He would be or could be sleeping in the same room. I’m not OK with that and I told my daughter so but I had not yet had a chance to discuss it with the Mom.

Today my daughter got in trouble for something unrelated, and I made her come home from a visit with the friend. She wasn’t actually supposed to be at the friends house, but she left the beach and went there when she got home. She was upset and texted her friend that I said she was not allowed to sleep over there anymore because of the sleeping arrangements. Friend got upset, told Mom and Mom freaked out on me. How could I judge her, she’s doing her best, etc. I never judged her, honestly I get it. Doesn’t mean a NON sister should be in that mix. I let her vent, didn’t say much else.

Am I the asshole??