Got called a “red flag” because I did not want to have sex
I am 30. I have been celibate for a couple of years. After random hookups, I said I would wait until a few dates and I would make sure a guy likes me. I went out last night with a friend. We met a guy. Towards the end he asked me if I would go on a date with him. I was excited and said yes. He asked if I would get wine at his place. It was getting late and i said no. I said I didn’t want a random hookup. He said it was a low stake get to know each other. Normally, I would say no and go home. I went against my gut, and I stupidly said ok. I know it was dumb. We got to his place, and he pressured me into sex. I was pushing back and clearly very uncomfortable. He still kept pushing, and I was not into it. Finally he gave up. I explained I said clearly I didn’t want sex on the first date. It was not even a date. He said “he didn’t pressure me” and that it was my fault. He said I was the “red flag” and that something was wrong with me. I broke down and left. I feel awful, and I know I was dumb to agree to hang with him in his place.