My ex was stalking me, and is now stalking my boyfriend
first time posting anything big on reddit, so bare with me. for context i (23F) have been dating my boyfriend (25M) for almost 8 months. things are perfect, he is so special to me and has helped me through a lot, as i have with him. before we started dating i was in a relationship for 6 months with (fake name) abby (24F) and for context I am bisexual. our relationship was very tumultuous and ended pretty poorly before i backpacked for a month. she had accused me of cheating on her (i did not) and that was what ended it for me. after we broke up she had been sending me insane text messages for the first week i was backpacking. i had told her to give me space, and we’d talk about it after i came back in hopes of us getting back together. when i did come back the texts that she sent me were really terrible, accusatory, rude, and overall disrespectful. so i decided to end it for good. i had told her i didn’t want to talk to her, but she kept reaching out for about a month and i decided to block her on all platforms. shortly after i blocked her i began getting very crude texts everyday, as well as up to 30+ calls a day from anonymous numbers.
here are two examples of texts that were sent to me (each line is a separate text from a thread and these texts happened everyday for about 9 months)
“You hop around on a bunch of dick don't you [my name]?
Guitarist to bearded men! Anything that fits [my name]?
You hop around on a bunch of dick don't you [my name]?
[my name]?
[my name]?
[my name]?
[my name]?
[my name]?
No words [my name]?
You hop around on a bunch of dick don't you [my name]?
Guitarist to bearded men! Anything that fits [my name]?
No words?”
“You're embarrassing yourself!
You're embarrassing yourself!
Performative posts don't make you look sane, [my name]. Maybe post more about OCD!
Performative posts don't make you look sane, [my name]. Maybe post more about OCD!
Please, you already ruined Christmas.
Don't ruin the New Year too!
Please, you already ruined Christmas.
Don't ruin the New Year too!
Are you [my boyfriends]' beard? He looks like he's attracted to young children or men.
Are you [my boyfriends]' beard? He looks like he's attracted to young children or men.
Are you [my boyfriends]' beard? He looks like he's attracted to young children or men.
You're embarrassing yourself!
Please, you already ruined Christmas.
Don't ruin the New Year too!”
im assuming she paid for multiple of these numbers. this went on for MONTHS until i met my boyfriend now. i was so desensitized at this point when we first got together he was astonished. this created a couple arguments at the beginning of our relationship as he was concerned for my safety and i was just used to it. i ended up filing a police report, and changing my number. unfortunately because all of the numbers were different it was pretty impossible to charge her specifically because lack of evidence. however, in recent months, my boyfriend has been getting similar text messages. accusing him of being a pedo (he is absolutely not,) being gay (he’s openly bisexual) calling him as much as she used to with me and more. its definitely not as bad as it was with me, but it’s still really concerning. he’s been really upfront about it, and is definitely trying to be brave for me but it’s all really concerning. it’s still going on and abby and i have been broken up for over a year, im just not sure what to do? i feel like i’ve exhausted the biggest option, and am scared for my safety when im in her part of town. i’ve done the police thing, i’ve changed my number but it’s affecting someone i love so deeply and i just want it to end. any advice helps.
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ps i’m not sure how to add photos? not sure if i can on reddit. id want to add screenshots for context and proof (ik ppl lie on here) if someone knows please share! thanks for reading