Best friend told me to leave my wife 3 months before my wedding
I (Female 27), and My Wife (Female 24) have been together for five years. We recently got legally married about 4 months ago and have our celebration with family in October 2026.
For context, my best friend has known my wife for 4 years. She and my wife have never been close but both have been casual in group settings.
Last year there was a rift caused by a miscommunication but that was cleared up and all parties said they had moved on.
Can provide context if needed.
Since then, my wife has been going through a career shift and trying out a couple different part time jobs so she can start nursing school as she has spent the last couple years supporting me through grad school.
Cut to yesterday. I am talking to my best friend about feeling stressed financially and she starts asking if i am sure i want to stay with my wife. She says marriage means 50/50, and my wife isn’t working hard enough. I AM COMFORTABLE WITH HOW MUCH MY WIFE IS WORKING BECAUSE SHE HAS ALWAYS HAD A JOB AND COOKS ME DINNER EVERY NIGHT.
My best friend says “she is every month doing things to make my life more stressful and everyone would support me if i left”.
I am caught completely off guard. I show my wife. She is hurt….obviously. We ask all the closest members of our community if they are concerned and they all say no.
Here’s the problem. We are 3 months out from the wedding. My wife and I want to call her on this. She tried to break up our marriage and acted like we could just walk away from this. However, we don’t want to upset the apple cart as she’s already agreed to be MOH and paid for bachelorette party.
My wife and I are just confused….
So reddit…wtf do we do.