u/This-Custard-9299

Hey all,

I recently submitted my Expression of Interest (EOI) for a PhD program at the University of Melbourne. Before applying, I contacted one of the professors, requesting her supervision. She said that my project was interesting and encouraged me to apply. She explained the EOI submission process and shared all the links and details with me. However, she didn't mention that she would review my research proposal or provide feedback on it. Because of that, I didn't share the full proposal with her. Also, the university website stated that I didn't need a supervisor's approval before submitting my EOI, so I went ahead and submitted my EOI along with my research proposal without her feedback.

I nominated two supervisors in my application, but I didn't contact the second supervisor at all. The professor I spoke with also never mentioned that I needed to contact the other nominated supervisor before applying. She simply told me to submit the application, so I did.

Now I'm really confused because I keep seeing people say that a supervisor's approval is mandatory before submitting an EOI. Did I make a mistake, or is it acceptable to submit the application first and discuss supervision afterward? I am also freaking out because sharing the proposal with her wouldn't have been an issue; I just didn't want to bother her with emails after she had explained the entire process to me.

I am not sure if this is the right sub for this post.

I worked for a company for a few weeks and resigned as per the company's policies. They assured me via email that they would pay for the days I worked. However, they have completely ghosted me; they are not responding to my emails or messages. Is there any way to resolve this without escalating it?

This is so unfair-- this is the third employer in the course of my 10-year professional experience who is not compensating me for the days I worked.

TDLR/summary, my sister is a bad housemate, doesn't clean after herself, my parents don't intervene.

I am in a conundrum -- this is the second time, I am sharing the house with my sister, the first time was horrible and nothing has changed since then.

But I am having financial issues so I have no other choice for the time being. This house is owned by our parents but they don't live here most of the times or in the same city.

She doesn't do any chores relates to shared space: clean, take out trash, do her dishes or anything. She likes to cook, but she doesn't clean after herself. She cooked meat last week and defrosted it on kitchen sink, and the meat blood stayed there for the entire week until my parents visited us and cleaned it. This is the pattern-- she doesn't clean, and when I ask my parents to intervene, they visit and clean shared spaces, instead of asking her to follow some basic rules.

She also puts shared pots in her room and bring them out whenever she needs them and then take them inside her room. It's the same with shared spices and sauces, all these shared things belong to my parents. My mother sometimes send us food, but she also implies the food is for her only (I don't know if my mother implies this or not, but my sister says that it's her food and my mother knows this and she has never said anything to negate this, so I am under the assumption that shared food is hers). I have gotten used to this behavior but when I buy my own things, those things are treated as shared. I have tried talking to everyone involved, including my parents and my sister, they think I overreact. My issue here is that I have a job, and I depend on monthly salary for my daily expenses; however my parents have various streams of income and my sister doesn't work but she uses one of my mother's bank account.

Another thing that really pisses me off is that she doesn't cover curry pots in the shared fridge, I put my fruits in the fridge and they taste and smell like her food. And I have brought this up several times, but whenever I have stated that something is bothering me to my parents or her, the situation has always escalated.

Now I know that this situation will not change, I would have to move out again, but I don't know how to navigate around dirty shared space for now, and hoarding of shared pots and spices in her room. I have a really shitty job right now, and it feels miserable to deal with the anxieties related to that, as well as instability surrounding my house situation. I already feel guilty that my parents, who are btw old, have to come and clean everything.

She is in his old 20s and I am older than her (mid 30s), point being we are too old for this shit.