u/ThrowRA-SillySea00

think i did quite badly for my finals and idk if i can pass, with the new fgo system will it affect anything? i'll still have to retake the mod even if i fgo it right?

tldr: unknowingly went against my mum's wishes of not having sexual relations with my ex, not sure if i should tell her or not

i (21F) broke up with my bf (21F) quite recently and my mum (50F) has been on a spiel about how i should "keep my body clean & sacred until after marriage" etc. after hearing about a friend's (bad) experience with her ex bf & how they had sex & she regretted it. she said something along the lines of "i hope you didn't do anything wrong with your ex because you'll regret it for the rest of your life."

i pushed a bit further on what exactly she means by sexual relationships and she said she deems anything (i.e. oral stuff included) as "sex" and thinks it's impure. i, obviously, have done oral stuff with my ex & tried to respect her wishes about abstinence which i understood as penetration but i realise this is not the case now.

my problem is that i don't really lie to my mother, sometimes i keep things out of her knowledge mostly because i forget easily. this issue, however, is weighing on me heavily because i feel like i betrayed her wishes and lied to her, and it's really gnawing at me. now i'm thinking if i should tell her that i didn't listen to her (and possibly get lectured and scolded to no end) or just shut up and pretend like everything's fine.