My gf(26f) and me (24m) have a relationship of 5 years, and I'm getting tired of dealing with her illnesses, depression and problems. Do i break up? Is this fixable?
I '24M' have been growing tired of my partner '26F', she has a lot of mental illnesses that she has to fight daily, but probably the one that most affects our relationship is depression. For starters, I love her, like I actually do, but at least once a day when we talk, she always talks about how bad her day was or how insecure is she about something. Its has gone to the point where I feel bad because when she talks, sometimes I just cant get myself to hear all the problems, and I hate that, because, I dislike being unresponsive or neglectful of others feelings. And also, the sadness, the problems and all, they bring me down, there was a period where I quite literally avoided being with her because I know that when I went hang out with her I was going to be bombarded with problems and sad stuff, like how she isn't capable of doing X or Y or how her health has deteriorated.
She is medicated and has a weekly psychologist, and we have tried talking about the problem, which has had mildly good results, now days tho she constantly asks herself (and to me eventually) if it is okay to vent to me because she fears it will bring the mood down. And well, her illnesses and problem don't just disappear so, we still talk like once a day about her fear and how she is not capable of maintaining a job or stuff.
I have tried to tell her and incentivize her to trust more friends or have new hobbies, but it feels that she is not in the point of making those new thing a new life support for her. I tried breaking up some months ago but it just resulted on us talking about problems and making compromises to fix them. And honestly I don't know what to do next. We talk about or problems and feelings, but it feels that it never reaches the conclusion that I expect. I know she is happy on the relation, but im tired. I love her and want her to be happy and good, but I dont know hot to face the situation.
I know I cant fix her, she knows that also and I feel we have tried a lot. I have to say though, I have never said this in such a blunt way to her, I do not know why but it makes me afraid. Anyways. Any advice? Someone has struggled with a depressed partner? Im tired and exhausted and need to vent. thanks for reading.
TLDR. Depressed girlfriend and I don't know how to maintain the relationship afloat.