u/ThrowRAOldBreadfrui

My friend baby girl was stillborn. I decided to take her a spa treatment to help lift her spirit. While we we're waiting for the receptionist dealing with another customer I started reading out the treatments they do and asked which one would my friend like? She was almost non responsive but mumbled which one she preferred.

I guess the women behind us thought she was being ungrateful because she cut in and said what are you looking sad for? If someone was paying for me I'd be happy! Smile! Before I could say anything my friend, said I am sad because I lost my baby daughter and we just buried her 5 days ago. She ended up crying in my arms.

The women mouth kinda opened and closed trying to figure out what to say but realizing that anything said at that point wouldn't matter because she had messed up and there was just no coming back from that without further making herself look like a jackass! So in the end she just sat down and pretended to look for something in her bag while everyone else in the reception area glared at her. She eventually left. On the bright side we got a discount.

Sorry for any spelling or grammar errors. I'll fix it later as I am exhausted.

I am (18f) To start off I have nothing against LGBTQ community. I was at my cousin (19f) house and she was having a birthday party when this incident happened. I didn't even want to be at the party. But she's like a sister to me so I agreed to go just for a couple of hours. An hour in and I was getting uncomfortable and decided to call it quits and was about to tell my cousin I was going leave but that's when Abby (18f) approached me and we started talking.

Like half an hour into our conversation she just suddenly grabbed my head and pulled me in and started kissing me. I was SA last year. I'm still getting help for it. Her doing that triggered my ptsd. I don't remember much! I just clearly remember someone grabbing my hair and I don't know if it was the same person or someone else was dragging me off Abby. I remember Abby on the floor crying and her face was messed up. I remember crying hysterically and my cousin trying to calm me down outside. Everything else was a blur.

The aftermath. My cousin tried to do damage control. But people are still saying I am homophobic and calling me names. I tried say sorry to Abby but when she saw me she ran in the opposite direction from me. So I don't know what to do. My cousin said it will die down. That was two months ago and I'm still getting hate. She did tell a few people who aren't as judgemental with my permission why I reacted strongly like that and they have also tried to help but it's not really working. Is there any advice on how to handle it or what else to do?